(Closed) rehersal dinner (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I am confused.  Are they not coming to the rehearsal or the rehearsal dinner?  If it’s the dinner, then it’s not a big deal because it’s more of a “thanks for coming to the rehearsal and being in the bridal party” gesture.  If it’s the rehearsal itself, then it seems a bit more problematic.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I can understand you being annoyed by them not coming to the rehersal, but in relity, it is not that big of a deal, IMO. Sure, it’s crappy that they flaked, but the day of the wedding, I’m sure they will be fine.

During rehersal, try to use stand-ins so you can time everything, and the day of, have your coordinator there to tell them when to start. As long as they are not the first one, they just go when hey are told, and stand next to the Bridesmaid or Best Man ahead of them.

 

 

 

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Hmmmm Since it seems like they will both be late due to work, is it worth it to have someone video the rehersal. Even on just a little camera, just the important info… and email them the video to watch, so they have the info???

Yes it is a pain in the butt. Yes it is rough and emotional. I am sorry. But it is hard to leave early when you have a new job. And they also have no control over the traffic. 

 

 

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Whoa!  Slow down babe!  It’s cool!  It’s all cool, you are getting married, and that is awesome!  I can’t think of a single person on this Earth that needs to go to a wedding rehearsal…let’s face it, unless you have the girls busting out some Fosse while they stoll down the aisle, it’s all been done a thousand times before!  If they can’t make it to the dinner, that’s their loss, free food! and regardless of what actually happens on your day, as long as your married at the end of it, we’re counting that as a victory.  I’m not certain just what you’ve got planned for your ceremony, but it just can’t be that complicated…you won’t have to delegate anything and short of something that involves a goat, a camel and some string cheese, no matter what goes down, all eyes are going to be on you anyway…so it’s time to trust your friends, your vendors and what you planned and just ride the coaster honey, it’s going to be great!

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@ambereyez:  So have some wine…watch Four Weddings and A Funeral and call it all good!  Your doing great!

Post # 12
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5958 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@ambereyez:  Now you’ve got it!  Sally forth and get married already!

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

It seems like the one girl made a point to tell you she would possibly be late was to make sure you knew she wasn’t going to flake and she would try her best to get there as soon as she can but that she might not make it to the whole thing. The other girl not wanting to take time off from a new job for the rehearsal is understandable, she still has to learn the dynamics of her new work atmoshpere and doesn.t want to cause any issues too early.

It sucks that they may not make it, but you acknowledge that its at a bad time in the first place, just delegate the Maid/Matron of Honor and and BMs that show for the rehearsal to inform the ones who miss what will be happening the day of. Then trust in this person to do what you ask and try to relax and focus on the other stuff.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry

We didn’t even have a rehearsal (but we had the dinner, at DH’s request.) 

Honestly- this is NOT something to worry yourself about. It’s not brain surgery- our minister took about two minutes the day of to tell everyone who to line up with/where to stand. 

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