Post # 1
My wedding is 18 days away and I want to have dinner after the rehearsal but we are strapped, we have no money left. My mom said she could only contribute $300 towards the whole wedding(so we have her buy the champagne and wine) and my dad can’t help at all, his house just got foreclosed. My fiancée’s mother passed away 14 years ago, his dad is incarcerated so no to pay for it but us. So is it inappropriate to expect, or ask for the wedding party & extras to pay for their own meals at the rehearsal dinner?
Post # 3
Could you maybe do a potluck at your house and have each person in the Bridal Party bring a dish? It seems less offputting than making them pay at a restaurant and would be cost effective in the same way. Plus potlucks are always fun because you get to try lots of new things!
Post # 4
Um, in a word, yes, it’s inappropriate. Sorry.
Post # 5
@GeekChic: This! Great idea!
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I like the potluck idea, or you can have pizza at someone’s house- it’s doesn’t have to be fancy. Or get Subway, or grill burgers & hot dogs.
Post # 7
All the weddings myFI has been in had pizza, potluck sounds great too! im afraid Asking/expecting for them to pay is a stretch sorry!
Post # 8
I agree with the potluck. I mentioned this as an idea for an expensive shower but it could work for a rehearsal dinner: ask everyone to bring a dish that is special to them/their favorite and bring the recipe as way to build a special cookbook for the newlyweds.
Post # 9
I think a potluck is a great solution for the OP…its fun and relaxing and takes the stress off from you and Fiance.
Post # 10
Yeah, go with the potluck, or you could do a picnic, grill out with burgers and hotdogs, etc. I’ve been to family picnic-style rehearsal dinners that were fun and relaxed, a beautiful chance to enjoy the outdoors, and not at all fussy or expensive. That would be better than going dutch at a restaurant.
Post # 11
@Mrs McCain 2012:
Thank you ladies for your comments and opinnions, they are great ideas and Im going to go with them. I think I’ll do a potluck bbq at my house(we’ll buy the meats), that way everyone can sit on the patio, since there isnt much room in my place for almost 30 people, because we live in a fourplex town home. But we do have a great patio and big open yard space. Thanks everyone, Im so excited now 😉