(Closed) Rehoming Pets — GRRR!!!

posted 4 years ago in Pets
Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t understand re-homing pets (unless the owner passed away). They are a part of the family, I couldn’t even imagine doing that to one of my pets. Don’t get a pet if you’re not in it for 10-20 years (depending on the animal).

Post # 47
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Bumble bee

This is one of the things that is on my list of soapbox topics, so I will rant a bit (and I’m sure I’ll get bashed, but I don’t care). Don’t do to a pet what you wouldn’t do to your child. 

What if a person developed an allergy to their child? Do you get rid of it? No. 

To those who say “well, he bit my baby, I’m dumping him”. Would you dump your toddler who is jealous of the new baby and bit him/her?” No. 

If you had to move, and the place you wanted to move to said “no children allowed” or “age-restricted”, would you move anyway and dump your child? No. 

So with that being said, why is it ok to do to an animal what you wouldn’t do for your child? 

And before you say “it’s just an animal” or “It’s just a pet”. Well, to some people, your kid might be “just a kid”. 

If my kid loved peanut butter, and yours was allergic, you think I’d want to go out of my way to make my child starve so yours wouldn’t be exposed? Nope, because, “it’s just a kid”. So yeah, go ahead and bash me, but that’s how I feel. Don’t want a commitment? Don’t get an animal, period. AND if you must re-home for a reason, FIND someone you KNOW personally to take the animal, instead of posting it up on the chance it’s a bad person. 

There was a story around Christmas where a 15 year old dog was surrenedered. Not because of housing. Not allergies. But because he was old! And they had family coming in for the holidays and they were afraid he might die and put a damper on their holiday plans so they surrendered him. Heartless, and cruel. 

Post # 48
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

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skplue:  look until you find a place that allows pets? I can’t fathom how anyone could get rid of their pet.

Post # 49
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Yeah, my DH and I visited the animal shelter a couple weeks ago and saw the CUTEST dog who had been adandoned there because he was “too playful around their new baby”. THE DOG WAS FREAKING 8 MONTHS OLD. He was essentially a puppy!! Some people really shouldn’t be parents…of anything!

Post # 50
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Helper bee

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bumblebee12:  Right, I have horses as well, and my Thoroughbred has some issues. The typical not holding weight well. He’s 14 years old and I decided to retire him as my riding horse. He has chronic back issues and neuro issues so he will be living the rest of his life as a pasture puff. I’ve had him 7 years already and could never imagine just handing him off to someone with his issues. He was my first love so I couldn’t bear the idea of what could happen to him.

I always feel once you made the decision to own an animal it’s going to be a committment. of course when I got my Thoroughbred I didn’t think of any of the problems that could happen. But our riding partnership was cut short, and since I made a committment he is staying with me. Granted he cost more to keep then my “usable” horses. But I have such a great connection with him.

There is always a way to figure something out.

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

I don’t think moving situations are always so cut and dry. Yeah, if you’re moving to a new apartment and you don’t take the time to research pet-friendly options or pay an extra $50/month, that’s pretty shitty, but it’s not always like that. What if you lose your house or get a divorce and have to move out (obviously you wouldn’t predict this happening 10 years prior)? Is it still fair to now keep a big dog in a tiny apartment because that is all you can afford? That is one situation where finding a new home would probably be better for the pet, IMO. My parents recently sold their house and are going to be living in their camper full-time, they didn’t know they were going to need to do this 10 years ago when they got the cat. It isn’t really fair to keep a cat in a small camper 24/7 and isn’t safe to let him roam the woods, nor is it healthy to have a litter box in such an enclosed space. They rehomed him to a very nice and very well qualified person. Obviously, I don’t condone just dropping off a pet at the shelter, but I do think there are situations (even moving) where rehoming is what’s best for the pet, and in those situations I think that a lot of care needs to be taken in selecting the new home. 

Post # 52
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Helper bee

I would do anything to figure out away to keep my dogs,horses, and cats. But I am a strong believer of once you adopt a pet you keep it for the rest of their lives.

That’s just want you do when one makes a commitment to an animal. And I have my fair share of animals with “issues”.

I have one horse that is unridable due to back issues and neuro problems and is only 14 years old. He has about 15 years left I hope and he costs me more to keep him then my ridable horses. But I made the commitment when I got him 7 years ago, and we have ran into problems with money, time, and physical limitations but I just didn’t give him up. I figured something out.

I have a new chihuahua that got extremely stressed out and got completely dehydrated and had to go to the vet to be hooked on fluids all last night. I was given the option to return her back to the rescue I adopted her from just 5 days ago, but once again i didn’t because I made the commitment and sunk a bunch on money into the poor pup within the first week of owning her. I wouldn’t change anyting thou because this is what I do for my animals.

My Fiance is allergic cats but he takes medicine and goes on his marry little way.

I understand people don’t have the same mindset as I do but people that can’t keep the commitment to an animal is the reason why there are so MANY animals with out homes.

There’s options without rehoming the animal.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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TravelingBride31:  as someone with 2 people in my house with severe allergies (not me) I have to say that unless you know exactly the situation with this persons allergies (even if its not life threatening) you cant judge. My DH allergies to cats/dogs isnt life threatening but the minute he even walks into a house (not even touching the animal or if its in another part of the house) the dander alone makes him go into complete utter disaster mode…. his face swells up throat is scratchy, eyes get puffed up like mike tyson just punched him in each eye and they water and it sounds like he has the worst flu on earth. This is all within minutes. No his throat doesnt close up (does do something but…he cant describe it… its not something we’d have to rush to the hospital) but there’s no way in hell he coud ever live in a house/space with a cat/dog. 

I will also say this is a new thing… he was fine all his life until the age of 25 and then it hit him like a ton of bricks and he is DOG LOVER…..LIKE….LLOOVVEERR, and his family always had a dog. He’s obsessed with trying to figure out a way we can have one but so far we’ve had no luck (long story but taking meds everyday for it is not an option). 

If the owner of the dog has had him for 13 years do you not think this is hard for them? This could be one of the hardest things they have ever had to do but you dont know! All Im trying to say is when you read posts, you just see typed words and you dont know the full backstory or how they feel, or if they are crying their eyes out while posting the ad! 

plus just as an FYI certain meds interfere with the effectiveness of them and vice versa…so again, doing meds etc may not be optional

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Post # 54
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2011

I’m so tired of hearing people say just talk some pills.  I take allergy medications every day and I still suffer.  I also have another serious medical condition and an allergic reaction can cause that to be a problem too, to the point where it’s life-threatening and worse than a severe allergic reaction.

As for exploring all options first, rehoming to someone who will take good care of the pet sounds better than sending it to a shelter.

Even if someone can tolerate a dog being in the house, what if their allergies are too out of control touching him, brushing him, etc?  The OP speaks of one owner.  I would think a dog would be happier with an owner that could interact with him than stay with the current owner if there’s limited contact with anyone in the household.

Post # 55
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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hellohedwig:  I’m just saying really right to skewer everyone  when you don’t know their situation. Maybe they can’t afford the extra money it costs to move into a pet friendly place? The pet friendly places in my area charge an average of $500 (nonrefundable) for a pet deposit on top of your regular deposit. I can understand why some people do it. Of course I think it’s better that pets aren’t rehomed, but let’s face it, life is unpredictable. You can live in pet friendly apartment one day and then not be able to continue living there for a variety of reasons that are out of your control.

Post # 56
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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_blackbird_:  so what’s your suggestion if  have a limited amount of time to get into a new home? No idea where you live, but every showing I went to had a bunch of other people also looking/ interested in renting 

Post # 57
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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Beegritte:  woah, how do you know the next 20 years of your life will be stable? My dad lived in the same place for 15 years and after a series of events that were unanticipated/ out of his control, he’s about to lose the house. I mean, if you can guarantee that the next even 5 years of someone’s life are going to be stable, I’m interested in knowing about  it.

 

Post # 58
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Newbee

I don’t understand the people saying ‘find it a home yourself maybe but don’t ever take it back to the shelter’. When I got my cat, they asked me to make a commitment to the adoption agency that if my circumstances changed ever and I couldn’t keep her, that I would give her back to them rather than sending her on to a different family. Maybe other places have different policies. Certainly I can understand that if it had been a kill shelter, things would be very different.

And in reality I’m very glad that her original owner decided to rehome her through the shelter. As far as I understand it there were life circumstances and he almost just abandoned the cat in a park. Did an 8-year-old blind in one eye black cat who doesn’t like being around other cats have a fantastic chance of being adopted? No. And I can’t speak to his feelings towards the cat, whether his actions were justified, but I know that every day I have her is a gift and it’s one I’m grateful for. Can I imagine rehoming her myself? …Maybe, but that’s only because I have a strong imagination, and I would be absolutely heartbroken.

Post # 59
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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TravelingBride31:  is this dog still available? What state? I have two dogs but would be willing to take a 3rd, even one with a medical condition. That dog did nothing wrong and deserves to be loved and spoiled for however long he has left. People make me sad. 

Post # 60
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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meglynn:  what you said. I have had rough periods in my life where my horses and dogs were cared for even if I didn’t eat, had no extra money and fell behind on bills for a bit. Fortunately that was a small time in my life. I have a 24 year old horse with navicular – he’s expensive. A mare that’s blind in her left eye- the number of people who told me to put her to sleep over that makes me Sick. I have a chihuahua with seizures and a heart condition. He was left outside roaming the streets in Chicago in February. Maybe they couldn’t afford his mess, maybe they just didn’t want him. Maybe they lost him- that makes me equally as crazy. I hate how many people treat animals. If you can’t commit to caring for them for their life, don’t get one. 

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