(Closed) Rehoming Pets — GRRR!!!

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Post # 76
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Beegritte:  Yup! That’s a responsible way to handle it. I decided to adopt while renting, but I made the absolute commitment to her, and she’s already moved with me. I’ll never whine about how it’s “harder” to find a pet-friendly apartment, as this is a lifetime obligation I’ve willingly taken on.

Post # 77
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Bumble bee

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picturemeurs:  how does that make no sense? Someone’s child harmed another and they didn’t have to do anything, were allowed to bring their child back where she did it AGAIN? 

So you’re saying rs OK to put a dog down for hurting a baby or child, but if a child hurts a child to turn the other way and just let it go, even if it causes blindness or death. Ok yeah. THAT makes sense. Why do you think we have bullies? Cause they’re allowed to get away with it from birth. But theyre a baby… so oh well, sucks to be the one on the receiving end, right? 

Post # 78
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Bumble bee

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picturemeurs:  how does that make no sense? Someone’s child harmed another and they didn’t have to do anything, were allowed to bring their child back where she did it AGAIN? 

So you’re saying rs OK to put a dog down for hurting a baby or child, but if a child hurts a child to turn the other way and just let it go, even if it causes blindness or death. Ok yeah. THAT makes sense. Why do you think we have bullies? Cause they’re allowed to get away with it from birth. But theyre a baby… so oh well, sucks to be the one on the receiving end, right? Because the parents of the one who did that to my sister refused to do anything or say anything and that it was “that kids fault for getting in her way” but when they thought it was the other way around (that my sister hit their kid) they were threatening to sue the center and my parents. But when it was pointed out their kid was the aggressor, not the victim, the dad said “well she should teacher kid to stay out of my kids way”. So yeah, totally fair. 

Post # 79
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

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futuremrsc2016:  Our dogs are our babies, and we truly treat them like family. You would be hard pressed to find anyone who adores their dogs as much as I do. I wouldn’t rehome them for anything. But our dogs don’t bite. I am a HUGE dog/animal person, but your dog bite argument just doesn’t hold up.

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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FutureMrsPlasters:  I would be seriously pissed off if I was putting my health at risk because my husband couldn’t give up his dogs.  There is no way my husband would let me live in misery like that.

Post # 81
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Bumble bee

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ladycirtolthiel:  but there’s a difference in a dog who bites because it’s mean or trained to be mean and a dog who bites out of defense. Some people expect a dog to allow children to climb on it, push it, kick it, pull ears, tail, anything they want, and the dog take it. If your baby kicks you, what do you say? Stop that, it hurts. We don’t kick, etc. guess what? A dog CAN’T say to stop. So they bite out of fear and pain, yet it wasn’t their fault. Plenty of people have dogs AND children and because they are responsible parents AND pet owners, they avoid those kinds of things. 

Also, don’t let the dog/cat sleep with you EVERY night and then the night you go to have the baby, kick them out of the room and banish them to the backyard, basement, kennel, etc and not ex a retaliation. I was 5 when my sister was born. My toys and things were given to her. I was not happy. All the attention given to me? Was now on her so I tore up EVERYTHING. I destroyed her room because I was jealous. However, if I’d have been prepared ahead of time, being told a baby was coming, I’d have to share, etc, it wouldn’t have been so bad. The same with animals. If you want to kick them out, do it slowly and introduce them to the idea then just all of the sudden it’s new and they know why. 

im just saying. If you had a toddler and brought home a new baby and the toddler harmed the baby because of jealousy, you wouldn’t get rid of them. You’d find a way to fix it. 

and as my for my example about kids biting kids, my po is, because it was another child, my mom couldn’t really do anything. But if had been a dog, she could have. It shouldn’t matter. If a child bites another, especially repeatedly, in a center, they should be removed. But because they have “rights” they can’t. 

Post # 82
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

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Kikibear:  The dogs are older and he loves them and I love him. Also, he’s had them since they were puppies. I admit- there are some days when I’m pissed and frustrated and tell him I’m getting an apartment where I can live in ALL the rooms without fear of death. Usually those days are the days I get my allergy shots and my arms are swollen up and red and hot and itchy and I’m semi-sedated from taking benadryl or the days after a Xolair treatment when I feel like I have the worst flu ever and can hardly get out of bed. 

I was planning on retiring from roller derby after this season but I am re-thinking that because it gets me out of the house 4-5 nights a week but the asthma has definitely made playing harder this year.

I honestly don’t know what will happen. I feel like he needs to come to the conclusion himself that something needs to give. He is (admittedly) very low on empathy, but he is working on it. 

Post # 83
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

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skplue:  I can’t comment on re-homing a pet due to allergies or other medical condition, but I will judge the shit out of people who re-home due to moving and not wanting to pay extra for pet-friendly accommodations or people who re-home due to job loss.  Having a pet is a privilege and a choice, just like having children.  After all, children cost A LOT more than a pet and you can’t just abandon them because you lost your job or can’t afford them anymore.  If you’re not financially willing to support your pet through unemployment or moving, you have no business owning a pet.

Post # 84
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

Like some other people have said, the allergy thing is differs from situation to situation. It’s not always as simple as “take a pill”.

The ones that kill me (like the hunting dog situations I described earlier) are the ones where people don’t think or aren’t willing to try. I just saw a husky on Craigslist because the owners had a baby and the dog was too big. I can’t stand it when people have babies and all of a sudden their big dog needs to go. Did you not realize that you were near child bearing age when you bought the dog?!

There was also a puppy on Craigslist that the people were rehoming because they realized “it wasn’t the right time to get a puppy” because they have too much to deal with work and 8 month old twins. Did you fucking forget that you worked and twin babies when you bought the dog?! People are just so damn stupid.

Post # 85
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Helper bee

I feel if someone has decided to make a commitment to an animal that will live 10-30 years depending on the species then the person should understand that events will happen while owning the pet that will change living,money,physical and etc situations. And if the person decides to adopt an animal then they should be ready to do what needs to be done to keep the animal.

If one has no desire to keep an animal due to the change in life or adapt to the changes with the animal then they shouldn’t adopt.

I have no idea how people think their life will be the same in 10-20-30 years from now when they adopt the pet. Of course things are going to happen and if you can’t commit to an animal if these changes happen then don’t adopt a pet. It’s quite easy… if you will do anything to keep your animal then adopt if you are not willing to do so don’t adopt. There are too many unwanted animals in the world because people can not keep their commitment, and it just makes me shake me head.

Post # 86
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Helper bee

Like I keep reading comments of people saying well how was I suppose to know this was going to happen in 10 years?

Well of course you didn’t know but there is no way you didn’t think something could happen. I just don’t get it. If you can’t keep an animal due to future changes that could happen, don’t get one.

Post # 87
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

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skplue:  I agree that no one knows what their situation is going to be in 5-10 years etc. 

I had to rehome my dog once.  We had two dogs, one was 10 the other was 2.  Our house burned down and we had to find somewhere to rent quickly.  The insurance company paid for our dogs to be boarded while we were essentially homeless (living in a hotel) but only for a month.  After searching for a place that would take both dogs for 3 weeks we just couldn’t find anywhere with availability.  All we could find was a place that would take 1 dog. 

So we re-homed the 2 year old since we knew he had a great chance of being adopted.  The shelter did tell me that he was adopted within a week.  They weren’t supposed to give that information but they knew how upset I was and what the situation was.  I had adopted him a year prior and it was in the adoption contract that if I couldn’t keep him I had to give him back to the shelter.  We didn’t have any family that could take him either, we really tried everything we could.  It was heartbreaking on top of everything else we were going through.  It was just a very horrible experience for all of us including the dogs 🙁

Post # 88
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

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mindycy1:  but my main point was that you don’t really truly know someone’s situation and that it’s unfair to judge. I personally think rehoming is sometimes best. We got our cat from a military guy who was being deployed. He said that cat was his ex-gf’s ans she left the cat when they broke up. I personally think we’re a better family for our cat and that this guy did the right thing by rehoming him. Our cat doesn’t seem to care that he now lives with us either, he’s happy! On the flip side, we live in a high COL area where homelessness is a huge problem. And some of the homeless people we’ve will live on the sidewalk and let their dogs roam free or they’ll be tied on a short leash. I understand that these people aren’t choosing to be homeless, but i personally think that their dogs might benefit from having an owner who can better provide/ care for them. 

 

Geez, so many errors in this post… Sorry everyone, it’s hard to post a paragraph on an iPhone.

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Post # 89
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Blushing bee

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meglynn:  great to hear something from a fellow horse owner! I think it’s such a common practise with horses/bigger animals, I’ve never liked the way people can just pass them on (when their ‘ability’ has surpassed their horse/it’s a pain etc). I’ve known an awful lot of people who sold their horses on when they started competing or they wanted one that LOOKED DIFFERENT!

I recently had my Shetland pony pass away completely suddenly. Never when I was thinking about getting him did I consider rehoming him in any foreseeable future. Now he’s gone I know how painful losing him has been, I cannot imagine me ever considering rehoming any pets as knowing I’ll never see him again is horrible.

I think pet owners and potential pet owners should think more about it, it IS a big commitment to make, will you make sure that whatever happens that you do everything in your power for that pet? If it’s a horse that has issues and the best decision is to retire it early, SO BE IT. Good on you for knowing your horse, it’s admirable to know when that point is coming. I know I’d prefer to be the one taking care of mine if they are ill/old etc. 

 

Agree with PP’s who have said people ought to consider giving their pet to someone they know before letting them go to a centre. 

Post # 90
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Bumble bee

I volunteer at a no-kill shelter with the cats.  It’s heartbreaking to see the senior cats that have been given up for no other reason than their old.  

At least once a month, more often when I can, I go sit with the senior kitties and play with them. You can tell the ones that miss their people – I had a 16 year old moggie crawl into my arms and then up into my and was purring so loud I couldn’t hear my co-volunteer.

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