(Closed) Rejected… :-(

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
2385 posts
Buzzing bee

i’m sorry. It’s easy to write off that kind of behavior when your SO is going through a hard time like that, but it still hurts. It still hurts a lot. (hug)

Post # 4
Member
7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

The only thing I can think of  is that he is terrified that he is going to experience what his parents are right now, and he doesn’t want that, so he is just avoiding marriage talk. It could be. If I were you, I would talk to him. Keep it very light hearted. Ask him how he’s feeling about his parents divorce, then let him answer. Then, ask him if he feels that is impacting his thoughts on marriage, and let him answer. No matter what he says, don’t get upset.

A lot of people go through this when a divorce hits close to home. He deserves to give you honest answers, and if he won’t talk, well then you have bigger issues besides marriage

Post # 5
Member
236 posts
Helper bee

I’m sorry this is happening! He probably is just having a hard time with the split, and his dad made him feel uncomfortable. I know I am so so so ready to be done waiting, but if my parent did that to me and my SO, I would feel uncomfortable. I wouldn’t take it as a sign of his rejection for you and your future, just of that specific instance.

Post # 6
Member
384 posts
Helper bee

I’m right there with you as you know because you responding to my “bad time waiting” post.  This would have hurt my feelings as well but I do know that men don’t think about these types of things when they say them.  They should, and they should be more in tune to our feelings but most are NOT. 

I’m also right there with you as far as setting a timeline, internally, without telling him.  I’ve pretty much told him that I am going to end the relationship if something doesn’t change, just sans a date.  I’m thinking the same as you, after the first of the year.  No new year’s eve proposal, or sooner and I need to move on.  It will be so hard and I cry it about that a lot.

This isn’t fun….  but like you told me “you’ve come to the right place.”  Let’s support each other through this mess. 

We’ll end up in a good place, one way or another!!

The topic ‘Rejected… :-(’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors