(Closed) Rejected by a vendor

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
542 posts
Busy bee

Don’t worry about it. You didn’t do anything wrong. Definitely don’t send her anything, that will just be more awkward. Its okay to not mesh with vendors, and it’s better for her to bow out now before things went farther and the two of them drove each other and you to insanity with the bickering.

 

Post # 4
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169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Maybe she is passing on yours to wait for someone else to book for ceremony and reception so she makes more money

Post # 5
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628 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@em370:  I too think that it may be for the best if there were small disagreements right away…about an area that you clearly said you did not need help with….

Post # 6
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8113 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@em370:  It sucks that you liked her and would have booked her, but there’s no reason at all to be embarassed or to send her anything. Be glad she was honest and told you right away rather than trying to force something for several months. I’m sure you’ll find someone just as capable and more suited to the two of you.

Post # 7
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1299 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@em370:  I agree with other Posters.  I wouldnt send anything else her way, not even an email because it is going to create more awkwardness.  If you stated clearly you didn’t need help in those areas I feel like she should have left it alone, but as other have said it is ok to not mesh well with vendors.  You may find a DOC that is better than what you originally wanted.  Please dont feel awful over it or take it to heart, and dont take it out on Fiance because he was probably just standing up for what you already said you didnt need her for. 

Post # 9
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719 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014 - South Bonson Pier & Community Centre

Don’t send a card or anything else. An email is fine. If you didn’t get a job, would you send them a gift basket? Sometimes people don’t mesh. Take it as a learning experience and move on.

We’ve been pretty lucky with vendors so far, except for the first photographer that just stopped emailing us back….

Post # 10
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4436 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Definitely don’t feel embarrassed! I wouldn’t have wanted to book her after the awkwardness between her and your Fiance. If anything, it sounds like she was being unprofessional- what happened to “the customer is always right” type customer service attitude? You don’t want someone like that working for you- no way! Forget the gift and card- you can go your separate ways and it’s not like you have to see her again. She doesn’t sound like anyone I would ever consider hiring- too confrontational and pushy. Wedding planner is supposed to make things less stressful, not cause stress.

Post # 11
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1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@em370:  oh dont worry about it at all.  She probably checked and he was right lol and she was embarassed.  Or maybe she thought you were going to not choose her anyway so she got in first. Please do not send her a card or a gift, honestly, that would be too unusual.  Then she would have to contact you to thank you…..and so forth.  🙂

Post # 12
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502 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m going to go against the grain here and say that she probably felt really uncomfortable with the confrontation with your Fiance and I don’t blame her for backing out. You said yourself it was awkward and you were uncomfortable. She probably thought a working relationship may not be successful. Just let it go and don’t send anything to add to the awkwardness.

 

Post # 13
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3151 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@em370:  sounds like it’s for the best but I wouldn’t be sending any cards or gifts!

Post # 15
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2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

i dont think it sounds like she realised it was in the wrong, i think it sounds like he was belligerent and she thought life was too short to plan an entire wedding that way

normally the price is per event no, and not necessarily different for reception only versus ceremony and reception? it was for mine anyway

you dont have to send anything (i know you already said you wouldn’t) but you might need to ask fi to be less forceful. i had to have a talk with mine, who is very direct (esp when he speaks english, as spanish is more of a direct language) and it sounded like he was barking orders at our wedding planner. i told him to tone it down!

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