Rejected by my dream elopement photographer

posted 11 months ago in Beehive
Post # 2
4663 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I’m so sorry. Not to cite a reason is odd. But. Whatever the reason the fact that they were all positive and then said no os reason enough not to trust them imho. So it looks like you got a lucky escape. There will be other photographers.

Post # 3
211 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - City, State

brideandblue :  I totally understand the disappointment and hurt, Bee—so sorry it didn’t work out. Are you having a destination elopement? The only reason I can think of is if they aren’t interested in/able to travel to whatever location you’re eloping in. If you’re not having a destination elopement, then the reason is lost on me! They should have explained their decision instead of leaving you in the dark, but as PP said, there are definitely other great photographers out there—it’s easy to fixate on things we’re excited about but after more searching, you’ll find the right photographer for you and your fiance =)

Post # 7
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

brideandblue :  I don’t agree that their actions were dishonest. They run a business and they probably have a more lucrative offer for that weekend, based on the new pricing. They also might not see your wedding as a good fit for their portfolio. You didn’t have a contract (or even a handshake deal) with them, they’re not your friends, and it’s not personal. They’re not going to spend any more time thinking about this and you shouldn’t either. 

Post # 9
41 posts

This is such a sucky situation! I know they are running a busines but if they were raising prices they could have given you the option to review them right? It’s hard when its business for them and emotion for us! My original boquet got lost in the mail and even though I knew it was just an accident I took it pretty personally. 

I’m sure you’ll find and even better photographer!! Good luck and happy planning!

Post # 10
2504 posts
Sugar bee

brideandblue :  The fact that your wedding is on a Sunday doesn’t matter from the photographer’s perspective. Most wedding photographers I know book only one wedding a weekend. Yours would also require travel and many photogs in that situation have to get in a day or two early for travel locations to ensure they have time to settle in and it’s not the end of the world if their flight gets delayed, etc. 

Post # 11
3043 posts
Sugar bee

brideandblue :  It’s probably for the best. If I remember correctly, you’ve mentioned financial restrictions previously, so not going over budget is a good thing.

Post # 12
4041 posts
Honey bee

They really should have just notified you about the price change and let you decide what to do. But if you have no signed contract they have no obligation to keep the old price for you. Im wondering why you didn’t sign a contract after weeks of emails and FaceTime. I’m betting that the price hike wasn’t the only reason you were dropped, sorry.

Post # 13
441 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

I think that is super annoying!! All of the photographers I follow on Instagram generally up their prices once per year, however, they ALWAYS put a post out saying, we are uping our prices X date, book with us before then to garuntee our current prices. Your photogrpher should have said on facetime, if we don’t get a contract signed by the date my prices are going up, you will be required to pay the increased fee. It seems super shady, and yes I agree that they are running a business, but customer service and transperency is part of running said business. It sucks that you don’t have much of a leg to stand on since you don’t have any contract, but I would count this as a win that you aren’t working with them! Would you PM me the name of the photographer? I’ll see if the style is similar and probably have a few photogrphers I could reccomend!!

Post # 14
12108 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

They got a more lucrative job offer on the same weekend and or did not want to travel. They could have handled it better, for sure. 

Post # 15
545 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Don’t take this personally. It’s just business. They didn’t reject you or anything like that. It’s not that your wedding isn’t good enough. If they are a high-demand photographer, they were probably interviewing multiple couples for that weekend. They most likely went with the person who fit their schedule and rates best. They aren’t going to act like a jerk on FaceTime since this is their business–they were probably just trying to be friendly and professional. 

Did you discuss money as an issue? If so, they might have wanted to help you save face and that’s why they didn’t say the rates went up. Or maybe they just got a better offer and had to go with it. 

Could they have been more transparent? Absolutely. But you still don’t need to feel hurt over this. 

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