Rejected from SSDI and feeling guilty about my parents getting a house for me

posted 2 weeks ago in Career
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper

ladyspectrum :  if you’re able to work why would you get SSDI?

Aside from that, what is your degree in? What do you WANT to do? 

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Yes pretty much everyone gets rejected the first time.  Don’t worry, just reapply but you might want to talk to a lawyer so he/she can guide you through the process.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

ladyspectrum :  my sister had a hell of a time getting disability for her bipolar and she had a doctor backing her. I think it was rejected and she had to appeal, it was a horrible process for her that actually landed her back in the hospital.

Appeal appeal appeal!

And don’t be so hard on yourself. So, you’re “privileged”. It doesn’t mean your life is easy. You say things have been handed to you but it doesn’t seem like you feel entitled to any of it, the fact that you feel bad, and wonder if you are privileged says to me that you aren’t an entitled person.

Don’t be so hard on yourself ❤️

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

LilliV :  my sister couldn’t work more than a certain number of hours in a week because of her condition. She couldn’t live on what she would make with that limited number of hours 

and you can work on disability, my sister did, not full time obviously

Post # 6
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Worker bee

ladyspectrum :  nothing says you have to keep this job forever. Keep applying to jobs that would use your degree. Pay your parents back if you’re able to/want to. Don’t let yourself feel trapped; you were dedicated enough to finish a degree, you can accomplish more if you just give yourself enough time. Be kind to yourself

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

I also second the suggestion of using a lawyer for your appeal, did they tell you why you were rejected?

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My sister passed away in 2006.  She was diagnosed with ALS, which is ALWAYS fatal, in 2005.  She applied for SSDI shortly after her diagnosis and was initially denied.  We were absolutely flabbergasted that she was denied after having recieved a diagnosis of an untreatable, terminal disease from mayo clinic.  We hired an attorney who specialized in SSI disability claims who informed us that initial claims are always denied.  It’s just a part of the process.  Its wrong as hell, but you have to jump thru their hoops.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Many SS attorneys work on contingency–you don’t have to pay them anything out of pocket during the process. If they get you approved they get a percentage of the payments that would have been made during the appeal process. Definitely appeal! You have nothing to lose. (And have you also applied for SSI?)

It otherwise sounds as if you are doing great, Bee!! You are working and have a house to live in with affordable rent. There is nothing wrong with working at the job you can get now while you consider and pursue other possibilities. Thank your parents. You are fortunate in that regard and you know it. It’s okay! Life doesn’t have to be challenging on every front!

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Yes it’s normal to be denied your first time. It’s also dependent on where you live. Some areas give it out easier than others. Where I live you’re almost guaranteed to get denied the first time, the lawyers in town won’t even take a case until you’ve had one denial. The best advice I’ve heard over and over is having your psychiatrist on board that you really do need it. 

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

ladyspectrum :  Sweet Bee, you have nothing to feel guilty about. And a lot of people choose to work in a field they enjoy over the field in which they studied or earned a degree but ultimately didn’t work for them. Focus on continuing to do well at the job you have. 

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

Do not feel guilty, my husband and I are closing on a house this Friday for my mother and sister. We are doing this because they need this and we are able to help, everyone needs help big and small. The fact you even feel this way shows how much of a good deserving person you are. 

Post # 15
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Bumble bee

I second everyone else – appeal and fight. Something like 80% of claims are rejected upon initial application.    Wishing you all the best…

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