(Closed) Rejected from Style Me Pretty

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Aww, OP, don’t feel bad. I know it’s gotta sting a little…just tell yourself that the editor that day was in a bad mood or that you were just too pretty 🙂

 

I do wonder what makes them publish one wedding over another, though. Like PP have mentioned, SMP tends to feature big budget weddings that are kinda twee and perfect. I actually found my photogs via SMP- they had a 100% DIY wedding featured that took place in a community hall and zero flowers- which is NOT the normal SMP style, but whatever. The couple submitted it and boom! I’m glad they were featured bc otherwise I wouldn’t have found our photogs. They had only shot THREE other weddings before that! (If you search for oldani photography on SMP you can see the post).

 

Post # 33
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406 posts
Helper bee

Don’t feel hurt. I get a lot of weddings published and a lot are based on seasons, trends, colours. If they’ve had a lot of blue weddings in the last little bit they will turn down blue weddings for a few weeks etc. They also are very particular about how weddings are submitted, descriptions etc. Your photographers style might not suit them either. So many reasons. Don’t take it personally at all. They take a very quick look and if it doesn’t grab them or fit a need they just reject. They just have so many to pick from 

Post # 34
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1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@rosie.jonesy.9:  it’s an open forum and Im free to post my opinion just like everyone else. If you are that easily offended you should probably stay off these types of sites.

Post # 35
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157 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

There are plenty of other wedding blogs where you can get featured. Try the Top 100 Wedding Blog List by BrideTide.com. Some blogs that I like that feature beautiful weddings are:

 

LoveAndLavender.com

WeddingThingz.com

GreenWeddingShoes.com

BLovedWeddings.com


Post # 36
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141 posts
Blushing bee

@PassionatePhotoLady: Correct me if I am wrong, but I thought this was a website to lend support to brides, not critisize the choices they make for their big day. It is less about me being offended and more about you recognizing that your words have implications beyond what you may have intended. You are certainly allowed to have your own opinion, but perhaps you should reconsider your word choices. Calling a wedding or wedding details “crap,” is not the kindest thing to say. I might not be the biggest fan of formal, ballroom weddings, but I would never ever call them “crap,” and then stand by my words when someone called me out on it.

Post # 37
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1668 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

My Future Sister-In-Law and her friend own and operate a boutique stationery and invitation design studio. They spent probably over a month getting a sample suite together for a portfolio to become a black book member. It’s not an easy fiet so I would not fret. Much like a CV, they only take so long to look it through before deciding and they have a very particular style they look for.

Also, @PassionatePhotoLady, there is nothing wrong with getting ideas from Pinterest. Where was it that people went to before the advent of Pinterest and such? Magazines. What still exists? Magazines. If someone needs inspiration then let them get someinspiration. It’s too bad you have such a low opinion of people who went withsome ideas based on things that they saw. I would not want to book a photographer and worry that they think that I am just getting a lot of “crap”, so I am thankful that I do not have to worry about booking you since you are nowhere close to where I am. I also have to say that you probably see way more weddings than the average person because of your job, so your perspective is not exactly fair. 

Post # 38
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406 posts
Helper bee

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@rosie.jonesy.9:  +1. I think sometimes as professional photographers we need to realize this isn’t a photographers forum. There are tons of places to go like Fred Miranda if you just want to Voice professional fustrations. 

Post # 39
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Busy Beekeeper

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@PassionatePhotoLady:  +1 I understood exactly what you meant and simply using the word crap didn’t mean you were attacking brides choices.

People really need to stop being so bloody sensitive. If anyone wants use crap as a descriptive word, that’s their right. Your not responsible for how someone else chooses to interpret it. 

OP As others have said there are tons of other blogs to submit to.

On another note, its really a sad that trend so many brides are putting pressure to have a blogworthy wedding. we see frequent complaints on the bee about brides are upset their photograher didn’t feature their wedding fast enough. That’s not the point of wedding. 

Post # 40
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Am I the only person who doesn’t understand the fascination with being on a wedding blog?  What exactly does that accomplish, unless you are trying to start a wedding-oriented business and need exposure.  Who cares what anyone else thinks of your wedding besides you and your guests?

Post # 41
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

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@ElbieKay:  No, I’m not into it at all. I would be flattered if someone asked me after the fact but I don’t need validation from a blog. I am quite happy having mine be kept private haha. To each their own 🙂

Post # 42
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

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@ElbieKay:  +100

This is seriously a first world problem.

OP, you should be happy that you had a beautiful wedding.  Take a look at the threads where brides are planning on a shoestring budget, or have to have a courthouse wedding because of expenses.  I don’t hear them complaining that their wedding isn’t featured on a snooty blog.

Post # 43
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Busy Beekeeper

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@ElbieKay:  Who cares what anyone else thinks of your wedding besides you and your guests? +1

Post # 44
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

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@bklynbridetobe:  thank you. The word crap to me doesn’t imply that I think the things described are ugly or a terrible idea for a wedding, but more of a synonym for “stuff.” However, its also stuff that’s been done to death and I just felt comfortable using that word to get my message across. I won’t justify My word choices on an opem forum. Rosie is being WAY too sensitive… she makes it out to be like this place is meant to be some kind of utopia and, while its better than some sites, you can’t hold everyone who participates in it to such an impossible standard. It’s not like I’m on here cursing and personally attacking photos or details from HER wedding or anyones for that matter, just making a simple generalization about the type of stuff SMP tends to feature.

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@PassionatePhotoLady:  I think you could have used a better word than crap. It just came off a little harsh. I understand where you’re coming from, I too have seen the whole rustic/mason jar thing a lot (online mostly, I’ve only been to 2 rustic chic weddings IRL). But it’s mostly cause of being in a wedding bubble. I think it’s because it’s pretty, and accessible to a large demographic of brides. I think puffed wedding sleeves is a fad, but something that encompasses an entire look/feel is different. That’s why wedding blogs continue to feature that style. As a fan of wedding blogs during my planning, I also have to disagree with your generalization, I actually found SMP did a good mix of city/rustic weddings. Thats why we went with them for our formal ballroom wedding. I think the person that posted on here that they reject/ accept based on what they have on their editorial calendar (seasons/colors)is probably the most correct, it’s just a matter of timing.

Post # 46
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Ugh I used to look at SMP all the time until I realized that almost all of the weddings on there look the same! I’m sure your wedding was gorgeous 🙂

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