Post # 1
I left the house fow a few days and he has no idea where I am at. In the second day he texted me “I know you said not to contact you and I am trying but just wanted to make sure you are safe”.
Wow, he is worried if I am safe? This is actually funny. I feel like he wanted to start a convo to see where I am at.
I never responded nor do I plan to. I am disgusted by his family and I will not take him back. Since I will live in the house with him for a few weeks until I find a place I feel like he will try to talk to me and maybe even try to get me back. I dont want to talk to him and plan on just staying quiet when we are around each other/not answer his questions. His birthday is also coming up and I dont plan on saying anything to him. He did not deserve it.
Do you think silence is the best thing I can do and If I really need to communicate in reference to the dog I can write it down and not speak to him. I just feel like if I engage in conversations with him we will start arguing again and my emotions will come up. I am confident in myself and I know I will make it on my own. I am also debating what to do with our dog. He wants to keep him and I also want to but I am thinking maybe I shouldnt because its an expense and because he will remind me of us. I love our dog, he is my baby, I taught him how to do everybtrick and raised him since he was 6 weeks. My heart is torn and leaving my little buddy makes me so sad. What would be your suggestion? He suggested we switch every week or two but I feel like he just wants to have an exuse to see me. Oncr I leave I never want to see him again, EVER!
Post # 2
The dog should go to whomever can properly care for it monetarly and emotionally.
If you can, I would move out now.
Post # 3
Find someplace to stay so that you do not have to live with him any longer.
If your ability to provide for the dog is in question and he is a good dog parent it may be best for the dog to remain with him. Good luck.
Post # 4
sbk17 : Is he a bad dog owner? It sounds like he has the money to care for the dog while you do not. In that case, if he’s a responsible and loving dog owner, I’d let him keep the dog. It totally sucks but that’s part of breaking up.
Also, it seems you’re staying somewhere else right now. Can you not move out right away or at least stay away until you can move out in a couple weeks?
Post # 5
No he is not a bad dog owner and makes more $ than me. The best option is to leave the dog with him since he has more room at the house and since he works less hours than me so the dog won’t be alone for too long. It just hurts to leave gim. I basically lost 2 things that I loved dearly.
Post # 6
I left for a few days to recoup and get myself together. The house we live in is mines as well. We split the rent so I will stay there until I find a spot (soon). I am supposed to be transferring to a different location (same area) at my job in March so I need to wait and see where I go so I can find a place close to work. My plan is to spend as less time as I can at home. Our schedules/shifts are different so we won’t see each other that often. I also plan on going to a friends place on my days off for the most part so i don’t spend time there is my day off falls off on bis day off.
Post # 7
Have you guys decided to work anything out?