(Closed) relationship after death of a furry family member

posted 6 years ago in Pets
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m really sorry about your pup.  I think this is something that you’ll be able to get past, you’re both just adjusting to life without your pet who was a huge part of both of your lives.  (((((hugs)))))

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I know this sounds harsh.. and people probably would call me heartless… but MY way of coping with this would to be start looking at shelter dogs and hopefully find one that me and my Fiance or in your case SO can start doing dog centric things… I wouldn’t think of this as a replacement pup but as a way to save another dog’s life since you couldn’t save yours ๐Ÿ™ I’m so sorry you have to deal with this. Losing a pup is never fun ๐Ÿ™

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Woodstock:  Same. I might take a little while to grieve first, but after that I would get a new pet. You don’t have to stop loving and remembering your old pet to make room in your heart for a new one!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Woodstock:   I actually agree with this.

OP, so sorry for your loss.  Of course you have a huge gap in your lives right now, it’s to be expected.  Just comfort each other through your grief and let this draw you closer together rather than letting it create distance. 

And as soon as you feel up to getting another furry friend, I think that’s a great idea.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

First, I’m SO SORRY about your little guy.  I so believe it’s harder to lose a pet than a human friend.

As for your relationship, you’re on the right track if you’re thinking about new things you can do together.  Everything takes time, you both have to greive.  Try to ask him to go for a walk just with you.  My hubby doesn’t like to walk, but he’ll go with me sometimes when I say I just need to get out with him and chill. 

There are all kinds of things you CAN do without a dog (that hubby complains we can’t do), like stay out all night, go away for the weekend at the last minute. 

Getting a new puppy right away usually isn’t the solution, but maybe going to visit a family member with a dog will give both of you some 4-legged love.  Or pet puppies at the mall. 

When my guinea pig died a few years ago we were both devastated.  He didn’t even like the little guy but he cried as much as I did!  It really made us closer to have to lean on each other and comfort each other.  We had to force ourselves to talk about it, but it helped.  Make sure you (without nagging ๐Ÿ™‚ ) get him to try to open up about what he’s feeling, too, and let him know what you need from him, whether it’s space or lots of extra love and attention. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

@KoalaWalla:  Sorry for your loss.  ๐Ÿ™  I can imagine how tough that is.  Where in South Jersey are you located?  I’m originally from Camden County so I used to go to Voorhees Animal Shelter to adopt kitties. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@almostmrsj:  I so believe it’s harder to lose a pet than a human friend.

Mouth hanging open . . . Surprised

You really believe that?

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@Woodstock: I agree with this. I actually have done this in the past when my kitty died. Not that I don’t remember her and love her but the new cat def helped to bring the mood up.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Sunfire:  exactly something like this should draw you closer together… 

As for non-dog related activities maybe do some more hiking or rent some more movies… there’s a lot of different options out there… maybe now you can go away on a weekend trip now that you don’t have to worry about finding someone to watch the dog? 

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Woodstock:  I also meant to say, I really loved what you said about how they can adopt a new dog and save its life since they weren’t able to save their own.  That’s a lovely idea.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

@Sunfire:  Maybe because a pet is in your life basically every moment, while a friend doesn’t live with you. I don’t think she is saying pets’ lives are more important than people.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@mspanda13:  Yea I’m the oddball that goes and gets a new pet when one dies… I just love animals and would adopt more… but I know I can only physically care for 1-2. I look at it like a circle of life thing and it really helps cheer me up.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@SoupyCat:  I hope so, haha!  That threw me for a little bit of a loop! 

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry! I dread the day my little guy is no longer with me b/c I don’t know if I will be able to handle it!

I think it would be very hard, single or in a relationship going from having a dog to not having one. It changes everything about how you go about your daily life. I also think going out and getting another dog would be a good idea. You just have to not see the new dog as a replacement of your old buddy, but as a whole new different relationship.

Hugs!

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