(Closed) "relationship anxiety" – update

• krm1984
• 4 years ago

Hey ladies!  So I don’t know the etiquette here or if posting an update on an older post is frowned upon (for all I know, no one really cares, but here goes)…

I posted about being really unsure about the status of my relationship a while ago.  Everyone was so supportive!  I just wanted to let you all know that in the past month, things have TOTALLY turned around.  It’s like he had to decide it was time to move forward on his OWN time, and then all of a sudden everything took off!  

As you all know, he finally invited me to meet his mom on Mother’s Day – where I met the whole family, and it was amazing.  Well, his mom invited me again for an informal family dinner on Memorial Day, just two weeks after our first meeting (after my spending all weekend with him, which was awesome), where I got hugs and kisses from everyone, and everyone said they hoped I’d be back very soon!   What’s even BETTER is that my BF finally nailed down dates for our trip to St. Thomas and everything is BOOKED!  I was getting major anxiety that it wasn’t planned with just a few weeks to go and waffled on how to tell him; I finally just came out with it in a calm, adult, rational way.  The result?  He laughed good-naturedly and said he had no idea I felt that way since he always plans things last minute.  The kicker was that he gave me a cuddle and sweetly said “If it’s important to you, then it’s a priority for me.  I’ll make it happen tomorrow.”  The next morning our flights were booked, and the day after that, the hotel was booked.  When I had dinner with his parents on Monday they knew ALL about our romantic trip and were super excited for us to go together, and were suggesting great foods to try!!

Long story short is that I’m convinced things happen in good and perfect time, and I’ve got my second appointment booked with a psychologist to help manage my anxiety next week (a third party opinion is truly invaluable).  I’m at a point where I just truly can’t believe how wonderful things are going, and I can’t wait for our four day trip to the Carribean together!!  We’ll be leaving on our 9 month anniversary. 🙂

Thanks again Bees, you guys are great!!

• krm1984
• 4 years ago

Thanks ladies!  I just wanted to post an update for all those girls out there who might have been in the same boat I was – sometimes when you hit the point in a relationship where it’s clearly getting serious but those “big talks” still haven’t been broached, it’s easy to psych yourself out and wonder.  Once I finally started really talking to him, I realized how easy it was – and how LITTLE he was really “overthinking” things.  In his mind, if there’s an issue, you simply talk about it (what a novel idea, eh?) – whereas I was spiralling into this “OMG I CANNOT WHAT DO I DO” rabbit hole.  So dumb.

I’ll give you all a post-trip update; he has some friends who live down there so we’re having a couples’ dinner on our last night, I can’t wait!  I’ve also booked night kayaking for us, you go out into the harbor at night with glass-bottomed LED-lit kayaks and you get to see all the sea life with a tour guide. 

I have a 3 hour appointment at at salon the Saturday before we leave to get pedicured, manicured, spray-tanned, etc., LOL!