(Closed) Relationship boundaries…..Give me your opinion! :)

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Well everyone is different and so is every marriage, but I know that no threesomes will be had in mine. I also hope that my husband never steps outside our marriage and sexes another lady.

Post # 4
Hostess
18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I don’t know if I could have a threesome but each couple can make their own decision about what they think is okay in a relationship.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This might be okay in my relationship — I say “might” because it’s not an automatic No like an affair or open relationship would be for me. But my partner and I would need to be very clear in defining boundaries (how many times with the same third person is allowed, how to choose them, how to invite them, etc) before going to the “act.”

But that doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone.

Just saying I’d consider it, and if the decisions were made as a couple, and the boundaries respected, it wouldn’t be “wrong” in my book.

Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper

Some people don’t define sex as something that has to happen only with their partner.  Some couples feel comfortable expressing their sexual desires with people outside of their relationship based on mutually agreed upon rules.

You’ve made it clear that it’s not for you, which is ok.  Some people include other people as part of their healthy relationships and that’s ok, too.

Not all couples who participate in threesomes or orgies are doomed for heartache, jealousy, and a regretful breakup.

ETA: It’s not for me and my Darling Husband either, but not participating in something doesn’t stop me from having tolerance and understanding towards someone who makes different choices from us.

 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I saw your post on the other thread and was pretty upset by it. If it’s a turn-on for the couple, then why does it matter to you? It helps their sex lives and it doesn’t effect others. So, basically, I think you need to judge your own bedroom before you move on to mine. 

Also, most women would agree that sex isn’t just for “love.” Sex can be powerful, meaningless, adventurous fun. Experiencing those emotions with my partner(s), if we choose to engage in that type of relationship, doesn’t mean we dont have any boundaries or morals. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

I saw your posts on the other thread. I will say that for myself and my husband we do believe that coming together in the bedroom *ahem* has a spiritual aspect to it and we do not believe in inviting others to be a part of that. However, I’m not going to say that something like a threesome is beyond me why anyone would want to do that or enjoy that because I can totally understand it. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Sex with other people (threesomes) oversteps the bounderies in MY relationship. As in, it would not work in our marriage. I had played out the scenario in my head as a fantasy sure, but it is not something I would actually do. Jealousy would be a main reason.

 I have no qualms with other people who choose to and enjoy adding this to their relationship. It works for them and as long as they are happy, that is all that matters.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

I don’t think I could ever do it. I’d be to jealous and I know so would he. If a couple feels like they wouldn’t be jealous though I guess whatever floats their boat lol.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

@Chelsea646:  How do you see it as breaking the promise if both people agree that it is acceptable for them to do together?

If both parties are actually there and consensual I don’t see it as cheating. You can see by my above post that I don’t agree with it for my relationship but I also don’t think a couple who decides to do it together would be breaking a vow that they made at the altar. 

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Chelsea646:  Why are you asking if you dont want any other opinions? Sounds like you just want to judge others for their choices that you dont understand. 

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