Post # 1
So, I was with my boyfriend a few years ago for 2 years.. we then got back together a year later and weve now been together 4 years. I broke up with him because he started being really off with me after I came back off a girls holiday. But he hasnt left me alone and weve still been seeing eachother since we broke up because we both clarified that we both intended to get back together, he said I was his & he was mine. So, Ive been still telling other people im seeing someone & not interested. But ive recently found out that he slept with some body else despite the fact hes been saying he intends to get back with me and has been telling people hes single. When i found out, I confronted him and he got really emotional and said it was a mistake and they had both been drinking. He’s saying how he cant live without me and wants me back…. And now I dont know whether I should get back with him??? I feel like getting back with him, it will never be the same and I will have major trust issues. But at the same time Ive been with him a long time, he means alot and I love him unconditionally – Ive never bonded with anyone like him
Post # 2
…shut the door and don’t look back.
Post # 3
It doesn’t sounds like this relationship has the steam to keep going. He lied to you and betrayed your trust. You deserve to have a partner who loves you, is honest, and you can rely on as much as he can rely on you.
Post # 4
You don’t need such complications in your life.
Post # 5
You’ve broken up twice already, and now he’s stringing you along while sowing his wild oats?
Post # 6
Yeah, no. You already know how this will turn out. You have invested 4 years but how much longer do you want to invest with someone who cheated on you?
Post # 7
But at the same time Ive been with him a long time and he means alot.
Post # 8
He’s a manipulator and a liar full of excuses. Look at his actions, not his words. Don’t take him back. You can’t trust someone like him.
Post # 9
It’s incredibly hard to move on when you love someone and want it to work. However, you will probably never get over him sleeping with someone else during your break. If the relationship was previously in question enough to break up, this will not make it better. Try to move on and find someone that is worth your time. Best of luck!
Post # 10
ooooh nice graphic image for the sunk cost fallacy!
Post # 11
What about when you get back together? Is he going to make another mistake? If he wanted to be with you so badly while you were apart, he wouldn’t have “mistakenly” found his way into another woman’s pants.
Post # 12
I dont understand the point of being broken up but planning on getting back together ….
If you ask me, breaking up with him gave him the green light to do as he pleases.
Post # 13
Let him go and move forward. He sees you as an option, you see him as a priority. Those two views do not mesh, and never will.
Post # 14
As I specified above, I broke up with him because he was being off with me after I came back from a girls holiday. The reason I broke up with him was because I couldnt take it anymore. But after a few days when we did break up, he came back and acknowledged that he had been treating me wrong & wanted to right his wrongs. So, I was actually with him the day BEFORE and the day AFTER he had had sex with this girl and I never knew. He had been telling me when we broke up that he was going to prove to me that he was worthy of being my boyfriend. He said he was going to prove to me im ‘the one’. Now, Ive found out that he had sex with another girl, despite the fact he didnt want me with anyone else and lied to my face and said he wasnt going to get with anyone cause he ‘loved’ me. So, thanks for your response, but I dont feel like I gave him the ‘green light’ to cheat at all.
Post # 15
I would be running for hills if I was in your situation.
How can he love you and then sleep with someone else like that? And then lied about it. A guy that wants to make it work and working on it with you would not, of course be doing that. He didn’t even give it a decent amount of time after you broke up! Drunk is such a bog standard excuse for: I can’t be bothered to just take the blame. He was only telling you not to get with anyone else because it looked like it was coming from experience on his side!
Only you would be able to say whether you can honestly get past this. Trust is broken, some times it’s not able to be gotten back. You will be forever looking over your shoulder and now you know what he can do to you, why can’t things happen again?