Relationship, sister and kid drama. Help

posted 5 months ago in Emotional
Post # 16
4632 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Wow who knew shacking up with your sisters ex husband would cause so much drama?

Post # 17
679 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2016

you’ve gotten some decent practical advice. the point worth reiterating is that your sister cannot just give you her child if he already has a father who is in the picture. that’s not how the law works. dumping your long term partner over a false notion would be a very large mistake. 

i’m a bit confused why you want to dump him at all. wouldn’t the easiest tie to cut in this triangle to be the one between you and your sister? your sister seems to have poor relationships with both you and her ex. you don’t need to maintain a relationship with your sister and she seems to just be adding drama to your life. Lance needs to maintain a working relationship with the mother of his child. at this point that seems like it would solve the most issues. and if she is not upholding her end of the custody agreement, Lance should definitely follow through on this and get the agreement updated.

Post # 18
560 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

A lot of you are going to be really surprised to learn what Hunter Biden has been up to…

Post # 19
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

glitterati :  I will never forgive him for what he’s doing to Beau.

Post # 20
1040 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Jeez, I don’t even like to use my sister’s toothbrush…

Post # 21
10036 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2010

thumbtack09 :  

Document, document, document. Every single time Brandon’s mother fails to show or cancels a date to pick him up. Keep written track of every dime you spend on the child. Any other random lunacy by your sister must be documented thoroughly. For example, trying to emotionally blackmail you by offering to sign custody over to you. It’s essential that you have date, time, and location. Along with any other details, eg intoxication. How frequently is she intoxicated in Brandon’s presence?  As to level of intoxication, describe the behaviors you observed in your notes, not your thoughts on what she was using or how much. That requires an expert.

If there is currently a custody agreement in place, it needs to be modified in court. If there is not one, that has to happen. It’s past time for a family law attorney.

You’re building a case for Lance’s credibility vs your sister’s. If she were to show up in court, I would expect a “woe is me, my sister stole my husband,” performance. Being able to bang out dates and times makes judges see Lance as the more believable party.

Unless you are some sort of menace to Brandon, the judge won’t be especially interested in your live-in partner status. If your sister wants to assert that you are, indeed, a terrible threat to the child’s wellbeing, fine. She had better have sufficient evidence to prove it.

A lot of high horses ought to be returned to the barn. Getting romantically involved with a sister’s ex is not a felony. It’s not much of anything. It may make for interesting Thanksgiving dinner conversation, but, it is hardly an act of cruel depravity. Your sister cheated, they got divorced. Pretty simple. If she wanted to be with Lance, she would be. But, she chose to blow that up. But, suddenly, today, it’s a big deal.  My suspicion is that it will blow over once she hooks up with Mr Next.

This is not the first time there has been a sister triangle.  Won’t be the last. 


Post # 22
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Holy shit I had to google that after I read your comment. That is bizarre although not uncommon. If it were me I would haunt the shit out of them, also beau and his wife’s son is named hunter, so that’s even more fucking weird. glitterati :  

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