(Closed) Relationship Snob

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Is it normal to think your relationship is better than others?
    Yes, of course! : (162 votes)
    64 %
    I guess. : (64 votes)
    25 %
    No, it isn't. : (29 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    3000 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    Hmmm, I never really thought about it but I guess I do this too! 

    Post # 4
    Member
    7220 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think so. It’s a terrible thing and I realize it, but I often find myself thinking that our relationship is better or there is no way they are as happy as we are. It’s ridiculous, but sometimes those thoughts just creep in!

    Post # 5
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    1459 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo

    I think that most of the couples I’m surrounded by are fairly solid to be honest (good communication and commitment etc). I do see things that really wouldn’t work for me, say I’m very cuddly but other couples less so, in that case my relationship /is/ better but for me only 🙂 I don’t really feel that my own relationship is super perfect either so maybe that has something to do with it? Not being able to see how people function in private is another factor. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    1109 posts
    Bumble bee

    Guys… Just stop, my relationship is.. Way way wayyy better than yours… :p but, seriously, I Think it’s natural, I catch myself thinking it sometimes.

    Post # 7
    Member
    477 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @SamanthaMarie89:  Yes! I noticed when FH and I started dating I did this. I have never felt like that before but I just felt this, ‘no one gets it because it’s SO special’ feeling. I, of course, know that I’m being a snob about it and have to remind myself that everyone has their love story! I think when you feel that way it just means that you do have something special and you’re great together. I’m so happy someone else has those feelings, too, though!

    Post # 8
    Member
    4464 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    This happens probably because most people judge others for face value on what they are seeing with their own biases and experiences informing their perception. 

    Post # 9
    Member
    542 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I think its perfectly normal.  I always think our relationship is better, but I of course don’t tell anyone I think that.  Sometimes Darling Husband will say stuff like “other people should be jealous”. Lol. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1399 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @SamanthaMarie89:  I think we all sort of think our relationship is special & unique & possibly better than everyone else’s. Haha.

    Post # 11
    Member
    488 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    OMG I am so guilty of this. I keep it between myself and FH of course, but for example: I went to a wedding this weekend and during the whole reception I was just thinking things like “FH and I will hold each other much closer during our first dance” and “she’s not smiling – THEIR RELATIONSHIP IS DOOMED!!” hahaha

    Post # 12
    Member
    851 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    It is better… For you! 🙂

    i am pretty sure it’s a normal mind perception thing. If you thought everyone else’s was better you would probably leave your own to find greener grass. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    293 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    I used to think that way until me and FH started having issues haha! Now I don’t really think that way…I know in some ways it is better and in some it’s not….but no relationship is perfect 🙂

    Post # 14
    Member
    533 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m surrounded by couples constantly fighting, breaking up, getting back together and just a fuck load of drama. So in those situations, I know my relationship is better. *ego*

    Post # 15
    Member
    522 posts
    Busy bee

    I know a girl who just got engaged after 3 months of dating and yes while I’m jealous she has that commitment I immediately thought that they probably won’t make it in the long run (which to be fair is a logical conclusion. They already are rocky and constantly fighting). I still feel like such a b!tch haha.

    However, I do believe that we have a strong, solid relationship but I try to check myself from being too smug about it. After all, pride cometh before the fall…

     

    Post # 16
    Member
    13017 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I think it’s fairly normal/common place, but that doesn’t mean I think it’s okay.  People are way too judgey about things they don’t know about.

    That being said, the thought has crossed my mind before.

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