(Closed) Relationship with Ex’s

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Relationship with ex's?
    I am still friends with my ex's : (15 votes)
    16 %
    I am NOT still friends with my ex : (58 votes)
    62 %
    Kind of (please explain!) : (21 votes)
    22 %
  • Post # 3
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    4566 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Some ex’s I see on a regular basis (one won’t quit coming into the store), some I don’t see at all, one I’m friends with on facebook and one is my BEST friend. That last one is weird because we were best friends first, then we tried dating and it totally DIDN’T work, so we went back to being friends. We’re more like brother and sister now and him and Mr. KM have a little bromance going on. It’s cute.

    Post # 4
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    4385 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    i am absolutely not friends with my ex, who was my only serious relationship before my Fiance. but i am friends with a couple of guys that i dated, meaning i went out with them for a couple of weeks or whatever, but they were never my “boyfriend”. Fiance knows that i still keep in touch with these guys, but it’s another we were friends and then tried dating and it didn’t work out scenerio…

    Post # 5
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    3709 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My Fiance and I don’t have relationships with any of our exes. More b/c we broke up with them for a reason and usually that reason was b/c we have nothing in common. So there was no reason to keep in touch. There are a couple of exes on both of our sides who still try to contact us for not so pure purposes so to keep from having to worry about separating the wheat from the chaff…we cut off all exes. It works for us…I know some people can and do maintain relationships with exes but as a rule…we have decided not to.

    Post # 6
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    2465 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    i don’t live in the same state as any of my exes (i met my fi a few weeks after i moved to a new city, 3.5 years ago…) so i’m not in touch with them at all, except a few friendly, non-personal exchanges. like, one wrote congrats on my facebook wall after we got engaged, and the last time i was in my home-state, my fi and i bumped into an ex, who he’d never met and who he didn’t realize was an ex until afterwards. so, it’s all kind of whatever. my fi really didn’t care. i asked if he was upset, and he said, “umm, no, you’re mine, why would i care?” haha…

    Post # 7
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    682 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I’m still friends with 2. One is like a best friend and we talk a few times a week to atleast weekly. We were together for about 5 years, lived together and he was the last serious bf before Fiance. We’ve all been out to dinner together and it’s not awkward at all. He was my friend before I met Fiance and I wasn’t going to change that just because I met Fiance. There are ZERO romantic feelings, and we do very much seem like brother/sister.

    Post # 8
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    399 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I am very good friends with one ex, but he was my first love and we had a strong friendship beyond the relationship, so after some years of awkwardness we have come to be good friends again.  Other than that, I am not friends with most of my other exes.  But, I don’t think there is anything wrong with being friends with exes as long as the friendship is healthy for both of you. 

    Post # 9
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    1207 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I keep in touch with one of my ex’s.  My FH is ok with it, mostly because ex and I haven’t seen each other in a long time. My other ex was a friend of one of my FH’s friends, and we used to see each other socially.  FH didn’t mind, except when the ex got drunk and hit on me in front of FH.

    Post # 10
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    3098 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    I’m still good friends with my high school sweetheart, but we only talk online (one or twice over the phone in the past five years) to catch up with one another. I loathe my most recent ex (the one before dear hubs) and would probably spit on him if I ever saw him in public.

    Post # 11
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    204 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2010 - Catholic Ceremony, Cultural Hall Reception

    My high school boyfriend (whom I dated for 2 years -he was my only long term relationship other than Mr. P) became very good friends with our brother.  They are still very close….so much so that my brother was a groom’s man at his wedding!  They hang out all of the time, so it’s inevitable that I run into the ex from time to time.   We have managed to develop a somewhat friendly relationship, despite a messy break up and years of resentment.  I don’t think that we would have continued to be friends without my brother, but I am happy that I get to keep in touch with him and know that he is ok.

    Post # 12
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    2280 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I dated my HS boyfriend for 3 1/2 years, and we are most definitely NOT friends. I have him blocked on FB and changed my number after I received harassing texts. 🙂

    I don’t have any other exes! I’m very happy not to have any of those messy teenage ties left intact.

    Post # 13
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    323 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I am on friendly terms with my exes. Ex number one was from when I was 16 and we went through high school together. If I saw him I would smile, say hi and make polite conversation, but I wouldn’t invite him to a birthday party or anything.

    Ex number 2 was my first serious relationship. We were in the same class at university so when he broke up with me I had to learn how to deal with it as we both had the same circle of friends. Worked through it and ended up good friends (BF liked him too, they were friends and it wasn’t weird). Since moving home I don’t see ex #2 much, but we keep in touch. Ex 2 is on his second engagment since splitting up with me.

    Post # 14
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    1854 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I have many exes, only two significant who I am still in touch with. One is happily married and we are still friends – he was my high school sweetheart, so a lot of water under the bridge! His wife is awesome.

    the other ex, I was with him for years, when I left him, I got together with Fiance not long after…. At first I took my distances because he was unable to move on, but we kept in touch anyway and still considered ourselves friends… Now he has a Girlfriend and she does not want him to be in contact with me… so we respect that, however if the situation changes, we would probably be in contact again, but nothing regular.

    Post # 15
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    7975 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper

    I’m on good terms with most of the guys I’ve dated. Only one would I still call a friend though; the rest have kind of fallen into my past, largely because I’ve moved so many times since dating them.

    My last ex though? He’s crazy and I do what I can to avoid seeing him. Last time I saw him he went on and on and on about how much he missed me and how I was one of his best friends, blah blah blah, to which I curtly responded, “Really? Because I didn’t even think we were that close while we were dating.” That shut him up.

    Post # 16
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    873 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I have no contact with anyone I’ve had any relationship with in the past.  Partly of course because I’m living in another country, but we’re not FB ‘friends’ either.  We went our separate ways for a reason.  However, I was in love with someone for 2 years, but we never got together.  Usually those are the kind of ‘what if’ things that can later cause problems, but he later made some decisions in his life which made me realize we would never ever ever have worked because we had very different morals.  He did come and visit Korea as part of a world tour and was at my place for 2 weeks.  I talked about it with Fiance and was really honest about everything before he came to stay.  Fiance was not impressed at first, but they met, hung out and enjoyed hanging out together.^^ 

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