(Closed) relationship with sister

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1280 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I don’t know if you’re just wanting to vent or get some advice…either way hugs to you and your family….hoping your get your happy ending or something close to it.

Post # 5
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9672 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m in sort of the same situation, I was very, very close to my sister growing up.  But as adults we’ve drifted apart, mainly due to distance. 

However, a few years ago I was missing her a lot.  I’d called her a couple of times but she didn’t return my calls, so I emailed her to say, “Hi Sis, thinking about you, I miss you lots.  I know you’ve been really busy with the kids, but I was hoping we could keep in touch better from now on.  How about we just catch up by email every week or so instead of keep on playing phone tag?”  Please note that my sister has two girls in middle school and only works part time.  Her husband, now ex, did all the cooking and cleaning for the four of them.  Her response to me?  “I’m too busy to have time to email you on any kind of regular basis.  You just don’t know how it is . . . blahblah.”  Basically she scolded me for even asking to rekindle our once close relationship.  However, she is still my sister, so when she ever reaches out I always respond with kindness.

I know your situation is a little different.  I know it hurts, I’m so sorry.  For me, my friends and my FI’s family now fill the “family gap” for me.  So I feel very blessed with who’s in my life right now.

I hope you can find some peace with this.

Post # 7
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2433 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Have you thought about writing her a letter? I’m not saying she would respond positively, if she even responded at all, but you could let her know how much you miss her. Perhaps open the door to rebuild your relationship, but highlight that it is important to you that it is done on her terms – she can choose how often contact will be, etc. so that she doesn’t feel overwhelmed.

I’m sorry you’re going through this. My middle sister and I have really grown apart. But we’re just very different people and she shows no sign of desiring to have a relationship with me (I have not spoken to her since Christmas – she didn’t text or call me on my birthday, and she won’t be coming into town when I graduate with my Master’s). I think this bothers my mother, but I’m okay with it since this seems to be the type of relationship my sister wants.

Post # 9
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746 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Oh wow, I’m so sorry. My little sister and I are best friends, I can’t imagine what it would feel like to have her emotionally disconnect from me like that. At least you still have one sister who you have a relationship with, and you can make sure that she feels that she can always count on you!

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