As texasbee: said, Divorce isn’t easy… infact it can be devastating !!
And I certainly the first time round, thought it was something that would never happen to me / us. BUT it did
And as she said, I too believe there are many many reasons that Divorce happens (altho Dr Phil says the BEST reasons are… the 5 A’s… Abuse – Adultry – Addiction – Amoral Behavior – and Apathy)
Pretty much anything else you can get counselling for fairly successfully (money problems – inlaw issues – chores – careers – kids etc). So all is not lost… BUT ONLY IF THE 2 PEOPLE LOVE EACH OTHER AND ARE WILLING TO WORK AT IT.
That is the key… a lot of folks won’t put the work in… so it is easy to throw in the towel at the first bump in the road
And as an Encore Bride, I can tell you there will be BUMPS… sometimes BIG BUMPS
It really is WHAT A COUPLE DOES about them that makes the difference, you ignore them and they are only gonna get bigger and worse !!
All you can do is vow with your Hubby to do your best… to take care of each other, and the relationship that you have. Communication and “connection” are key. If you don’t grow apart, then apathy won’t set in.
And having been thru a Divorce, I have to say that there is indeed a POINT OF NO RETURN… when a Divorce is not only obvious but the BEST / ONLY CHOICE
And that is when a couple can truly say with all their heads & hearts that they’ve exhausted all possibilities… and done all that they can do. Tried every imaginable thing… and still they can’t get on the same page. When they BOTH can both calmly (hopefully) look at one another and say they’ve given it their best but it just isn’t working… and then wish each other well.
As someone who has been thru Divorce, and had that heart-breaking moment… I truly hope that it is one you never have to face (I wouldn’t wish Divorce on my worst enemy… such a feeling of immense failure, lost love, and lost dreams)
Hope that helps,