(Closed) Relatives constantly asking/mentioning marriage

posted 11 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
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2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

It would bug me if my SO required that I live with him prior to marriage.  I know there are many people who feel it is helpful in getting to know your partner, but to flat out say they won’t marry you unless you live together first doesn’t sit quite right with me.  Why is he making this a requirement?  Have you had a specific conversation about when to expect the ring after moving in?  Move in only if that’s the next step you want to take, not because he won’t propose without it.  My two cents.

Post # 19
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361 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

People putting their two cents in can be so annoying! Me and my fiance were together 4 1/2 yrs before getting engaged and I’d say 3 yrs of that involved soooooo many friends, aquaintances or even near strangers always remarking about us not yet being engaged, ‘when?’ ‘why not yet?’ Got worse when both of our best friends got together a couple of yrs after us and got married very quickly- they started with it all then.  Bare in mind that I only turned 24 the day we got engaged- hardly an old maid!! What makes it worse is fiance is STUBBORN! The more people said it, the more he seemed to resist. Only when it actually died down did it happen. Like I said- stubborn!

Post # 20
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2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MissParrot: Gotcha.  I was confused based on your first post: And to talk to my SO about the whole getting engaged part first…which won’t happen till we live together according to him.  Glad to hear that isn’t the case. 

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