Post # 17
It would bug me if my SO required that I live with him prior to marriage. I know there are many people who feel it is helpful in getting to know your partner, but to flat out say they won’t marry you unless you live together first doesn’t sit quite right with me. Why is he making this a requirement? Have you had a specific conversation about when to expect the ring after moving in? Move in only if that’s the next step you want to take, not because he won’t propose without it. My two cents.
Post # 18
@kay01: Hes not saying that he wont marry me unless I move in with him..But I personally think that its a good thing to live with your SO before getting married that way there are no surprises afterwards. And I am currently practically living with him anyway we spend 2-3 nights apart from each other. I personally don’t think we will have any issues with living together. I honestly just want to take the next step..which would be moving in together, not just so I am one step closer to being engaged, I am no wheres near a Material girl…He has already discussed that he can see himself marrying me, and I have already had that happy crying face from realizing that I want to spend the rest of my life with him..
We havent discussed a timeframe and I am not about to bring it up becuase honestly I am just happy being with him and Nor do I want to put any preasure on the topic because I honestly want to be blown out of the water…when it does or if does happen.
Not that I don’t think it will but one of my personal favorite sayings of mine is never expect it that way you cant be disapointed….
Post # 19
People putting their two cents in can be so annoying! Me and my fiance were together 4 1/2 yrs before getting engaged and I’d say 3 yrs of that involved soooooo many friends, aquaintances or even near strangers always remarking about us not yet being engaged, ‘when?’ ‘why not yet?’ Got worse when both of our best friends got together a couple of yrs after us and got married very quickly- they started with it all then. Bare in mind that I only turned 24 the day we got engaged- hardly an old maid!! What makes it worse is fiance is STUBBORN! The more people said it, the more he seemed to resist. Only when it actually died down did it happen. Like I said- stubborn!
Post # 20
@MissParrot: Gotcha. I was confused based on your first post: And to talk to my SO about the whole getting engaged part first…which won’t happen till we live together according to him. Glad to hear that isn’t the case.