(Closed) Relatives Don't Like Fiance (long)

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@brendaray2009:  I’m so sorry you in this situation… At the end of the day, regardless of how family members may feel, it’s all about how you feel… If he treats you good, and you love him, that’s all that matters… This is one of the hardest parts about getting married… Sometimes, you find that you have to cut people off… Hoping for the best for you. Smile

Post # 4
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9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

So you say, “Why are all white people racist?” and see what he says.  

Post # 5
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1572 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’m sorry you are dealing with this! Racism SUCKS. I hate it. I wish I had some advice, but I don’t, just sending hugs your way!

Post # 6
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2188 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

F*ck them, you can marry whomever you choose, you know how he treats you and they only see what they want to see. You are the one marrying him, not them so they can take a flying leap.

I would cut off contact with those people, it’s disgusting they don’t like him because his ethnicity, how much is in his bank account and his job. Sounds like they are losers and you don’t need negative people in your life. I’d also tell my sister/other relatives who are telling you these things to stop telling you them, it’s not going to change your mind about marrying the man you love, it only hurts you.

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

They are just ignorant and close-minded. People like that do not ever seem to change. Let them be bitter and enjoy marrying the man you love. They can just get over it.

Post # 9
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@brendaray2009:  *HUGS* My parents are horribly racist (they’re Chinese), and it’s awful to deal with.  You just have to try to ignore it and realize that closed mindedness only hurts the mind it closes.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Eeek!  I’m really sorry some of your family is like this.  If it were me, the next time I heard them talk bad about my Fiance, I would call them out on it.  I wouldn’t give one f*ck if it embarassed them or pissed them off.  If they didn’t change their tune, I would, without hesitation, stop having any sort of contact with them.  I have a low tolerance for shallow and racist people.

Post # 11
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1307 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

This makes me so sad 🙁 I’d do what PP’s said–next time they say anything racist or something of the sort, call them out on it. Let them know it’s not okay and it won’t be tolerated, and if they continue- cut contact. It may seem harsh, but your Fiance didn’t warrant any of these negative things. It’s not like he did something terribly wrong to you, where your family would be having a hard time getting past it.

Post # 12
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Newbee

Let them be bitter and enjoy marrying the man you love.

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