(Closed) Relatives switched table names/numbers at the reception!!!

posted 9 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Eeep! I’d be kinda ticked about that!!

Congrats on your wedding!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’d be annoyed too! But, at least it didn’t cause too many problems! Congratulations on the wedding!!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2008

I’m sure your Maid/Matron of Honor was happy to sit with your sweet cousin!  My Maid/Matron of Honor had the task of entertaining quite a few of my relatives, and I know she was happy to do it– it’s fun to meet new people.

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

That would get me too.  I kind of thought you were going to say that a couple of people swapped.  (ike a reception hall with all tables of 8 etc.  And a couple of people just thought missed on the match up a bit.)  But to leave the poor blind cousin out, and take what you considering to be an honor table (of sorts)?  that was too much. 

Seeing that it was a restaurant, and perhaps not the traditional wedding venue, maybe they didn’t realize they were taking the table of someone important?  Did they know they were getting the blind cousin too?  I’m not saying what they did was OK.  But if people don’t realize what they did was that bad, perhaps it’s easier to forgive them and move on.

Of course, I’m pretty bad.  So I’d probably find a way to dig at them over turkey dinner.  “Hey (blind cousin) how did you like hanging with MOH’s family?  She’s great huh?  Gee, that’s strange.  I had you sitting with….aunt and family?  I wonder what happened.  Could you please pass the sweet potatoes, aunt?”  But then again, I don’t always recommend what I would do….

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

That is so wrong!! I’d be mad if people switched table names and numbers, thats not right!  They should left it alone and sucked it up.  It’s crazy that people do things like that after you worked so hard on making it!  Sorry that happened, but at least your MOH’s family didn’t mind and I’m sure they were being truthful!

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

… that’s just rude. I’d be passive aggressive about it, but it’s probably not a course of action I’d actually recommend. I WOULD tell them that you did that for a reason so they know what jerks they look like. Maybe it’ll keep them from doing it at another wedding.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

And thereby disrespect all the time, effort, and thought that has gone into the seating chart? Man, that’s rude.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Although we didn’t have guests switch the table names/numbers; we had several that completely disregarded their assigned table & sat wherever they would like, and one guest moved their own place setting to squeeze themselves into another table. I find it so humorous how people just say “nah, I’m doing this.” 🙂 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

Thats annoying, I’d be passive agressive about it too, but I’d try to make sure that your blind cousin doesn’t feel left out or awkward in any way.  Maybe at Thanksgiving dinner ask your aunt if she is happy where she is sitting or if she’d like to switch with someone, ask her several times and then ask again if she’s sure.  Then make a comment about how important it is that SHE be happy where she is sitting.  Do all of this with a smile on your face so you come off as poking fun at her instead of looking like a control freak.

We found this out from a guy who works at the place where our day after brunch was held:  My FI’s great aunt was one of the first to arrive at the day-after brunch.  She is the matriarch of the family in every possible way.  She wasn’t happy with how some of the tables were arranged so she rearranged them!  It didn’t cause any problems or anything but still, you don’t go into a restaurant and rearrange tables!!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

WHY do guests think this is ok to behave like this???!!! I was a guest at a wedding where I was one of the people who got shafted by another guests’ thoughtless place-changing. The bride had seated several very small children with their parents. The parents decided they didn’t want to sit with their little kids so they cleared out another table for their 6 kids – except for the two remaining place cards which were for me and my husband. We ended up sitting at a table with 6 toddlers. I was so livid I was shaking because I thought the bride had arranged the seating this way. I didn’t find out until later that it was the kid’s parents. They totally ruined the night for us and almost made me hate the bride! 

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

OMG snmcdowell – That’s horrible!!  I can’t believe they would switch things around like that knowing full well that they were leaving two adults at a table with 6 kids!  I hope the bride laid into them for it!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee

Wow, snmcdowell–the parents don’t really care about their kids to they?  I would assume that you were strangers to them.  Well, at least you know that the parents (who you would have been sitting with) weren’t pleasant people any way.  Sealed  I feel sorry for the kids–they should have just been left at home of their parents didn’t want to deal with them.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

I totally know how you feel. I found out after the fact that my Father-In-Law tried to switch some people around, he actually told me this. I was like are you freaking kidding me. But it’s over and some things you just gotta let go.

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

oh my gosh. I would be totally annoyed with this also! 

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