Relaxed or slightly busy honeymoon?

posted 2 years ago in Honeymoons
Post # 2
2093 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think slightly busy is good. If we could do ours over again, we would have scheduled the first honeymoon day for massages and spa only. That way we could have started the honeymoon relaxed and refreshed. We were pretty tired the first day because we were short on sleep before the wedding. We had too much running around to do. Then we had to rush to a plane and travel. I think it’s good to do some active things on the honeymoon but balance it with rest and relaxation.

Post # 3
1424 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

We aren’t really lay on the beach and relax type of people (I mean a day or two is fine, but a week? Hell no.) We thought about London/Paris and almost booked it, but my Darling Husband thought it would be too crazy. It would have been non-stop for us because I would want to see absolutely everything. Looking back I am so glad I didn’t do Europe, unless you have a break between your wedding and the trip, or if you just have a long time to take your honeymoon. Or unless there’s just a few things you feel like you have to see in Paris. We honeymooned in the mountains and if we were tired or just felt like lounging around the lodge we did, but we did tons of activities. To me, the most important part of a vacation is exploring and doing things you couldn’t normally do. But to some people it is all about relaxation. Ours was kind of in the middle, it was laid back and we didn’t feel rushed at all, but we were active and it was a blast.

Post # 4
1149 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

We had a “busy” honeymoon.  We went to 4 different cities in Europe in 13 days.  Spending a few days in each place I think was perfect actually.  Enough time to get a feel for the city and see the highlights but not enough time that it would start to feel boring.  I think the key is not to have too many things that are scheduled ahead of time.  Leave plenty of time to just stroll around and stop in places that look interesting.  Sleep in and don’t be afraid to take a couple “lazy” days if you start to feel burnt out.  We had an amazing time and I love that we had such an adventure together.

Post # 5
9615 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We aren’t typical just hang out on the beach people either but that’s the route we went for our honeymoon and it was perfect! We didn’t even do any excursions, we spent the mornings at the beach and afternoons at the pool. It was so nice to just relax and have zero plans.

We were also moving right after getting back so my husband could start a PhD program and we are both introverted so having all our family in town for a few days before the wedding was pretty overwhelming (seriously, we had pretty much zero time alone or even time to ourselves individually in the days leading up to the wedding) so relaxation is really all we were looking for.

We are going to Hawaii next year and planning on making it a lot more active than our honeymoon but for our honeymoon – doing nothing for a week was perfect.

Post # 6
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

We’re having a lot of trouble deciding on a honeymoon, too. I think we’re leaning toward a beachy type of place where we can do a few excursions vs. a Eurotrip – our reason being that on top of planning all of the details of the wedding, we don’t want to have to meticulously plan out our honeymoon too. Nothing set in stone yet, so I’m also following along here for ideas and insight!

Post # 7
2180 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

If you are going immediately after I would probably look at things where you had the option to decide what you wanted to do that day…. which to me probably means something like paris is out. I wouldn’t want to feel bad or guilty for laying around in bed or just getting room service and not leaving bed at all!

For us even though we aren’t huge beach ppl an all-inclusive resort was perfect right after the wedding. We could have gone on a bunch of excursions (scuba, hiking, ruins, swim w dolphins, horseback riding etc) but we also didn’t have to since all of that stuff was just random extras (ie it wasn’t the point of coming so if we didn’t do it then it wasn’t like we “missed out”)

I would say that if you are more the type to want an active vacation then go with the middle option but make sure you give yourself at least a few days of no-plans just to relax at the pool/ beach and be lazy and wakeup whenever you want etc

the one thing that I sorta hate about most excursions at resorts is spending the hour + before and after dropping everyone off at their hotels etc because you have to be up and ready at like 7 AM and sorry but I don’t want to have to set my alarm every night before bed on vacation!

Post # 8
4494 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We did Kauai for our honeymoon and it was perfect because we didn’t really have to plan ahead. We didn’t book anything ahead except one dinner reservation – everything else we chose the day of or the day before. We sometimes slept in and took it easy; other times, we did activities like scuba diving, snorkeling, zipling, etc. We did some “honeymoon” things, too, like a private couples massage, a sunset cruise, and a romantic dinner.

Post # 9
9163 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

we toured italy for 2 weeks.  it was amazing. 

i’m an early riser, anyway.  so we would out exploring, eating, etc all day.  then around 4 we’d buy a bottle or 2 of wine (it was cheap there), drink, nap, then get ready for dinner around 9/10.  and repeat.

we explored venice, florence, rome, naples, capri, amalfi coast. 


sitting by the beach is not my idea of a honeymoon. i could do that for a day or 2. but i prefer adventure, exploring, and different cultures.

Post # 10
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

we went to Kauai!!!!! GO!!!!!! It’s the perfect blend of what you want. You can makeit as busy or relaxed as you want it. Europe would have been great but also a tad much with the flight and everything. And we had a week, no more. We had a very adventurous honeymoon with a big excursion every day with hiking, kayaking, tubing, and a helicopter ride! It was amazing but I wish we had a few days with nothing planned just to explore and be beach bums. 🙂 message me if you need help planning your Kauai trip. 🙂

Post # 11
72 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2017 - The George, Christchurch

We took 4 weeks for our honeymoon and went to indonesia. Did 2 tours which included white water rafting, 4wd up a volcano,  hiking the volcano, staying with locals and much more. Then a week of relaxing including a massage, but still walking and exploring on a more relaxed level. Then a few days on a small island. Was the most relaxed before heading home. 

I did have a few beach days while the husband went walking as he doesn’t do relaxing on the beach. 

Stay true to your style of holiday. It’s your ho eymoon and will be special regardless if it’s relaxed or busy. I think you can find a sweet middle. You won’t be disappointed. And enjoy!!

Post # 12
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: City, State

ajillity81 :  see if we had had more than a week i would totally have wanted to do europe. with just a week, you’re down to 5 days when you account for travel, and that’s not much to explore. and if you’re going all the way to europe, you want at least 2 weeks i think.

Post # 13
3736 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

We went to Jamaica for 6 days and I wish we had planned at least 1 or 2 more excursions or ventured out of the resort more. It was awesome relaxing on the beach for a couple of days, but 6 days was too much relaxing, so we started getting antsy the last day or two. I would definitely schedule some rest days in to whatever you decide though. I hate coming back from vacation feeling like I need another vacation to catch back up on rest. 

Post # 14
6409 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 1997

A day or two of doing nothing but beach is fun, but after that, I get antsy. We have to have SOME plans, at least. I think semi-busy is better because you will have more experiences to remember and cherish. And, depending on where you are going, you may want to see more. I would never want to go somewhere far away and then only see the beach or a resort; I’d want to see the countrystate/area I was in and have memories of it.

Post # 15
7910 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would go with a blend. For our honeymoon trips, we did a week in Florida in the winter and later Ireland in the spring. Florida was nice because we could just relax, but there were some opportunities for hiking and exploration too. Ireland was fun too, but we were on the go a lot because we weren’t planning on going to Ireland again anytime soon. Hawaii would be a nice place to honeymoon for that in-between sweet spot. 

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