- 7 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
I got engaged in April, and picked my bridesmaids by the end of May. I didn’t think that I was rushing into anything, but now I feel as if I did.
I was really torn between two of my best friends when picking my Maid/Matron of Honor. One (we will call her Ashley) has been my best friend since Jr. High. We did everything together in high school and were basically inseperable until I went away to college. We were still in touch when I got engaged, but not as close as we used to be.
The other one (we will call her Chelsea) was my college best friend and roommate. I met her the first day of Freshman year, and we became best friends and ended up living together. We were very close at the time when I got engaged. So, I ended up picking her as my Maid/Matron of Honor.
It was a really hard choice, and I know that Ashley was kind of sad. However, she remained positive, and was willing to help me out with anything.
Well, fast foward eight months–four months away from the wedding, and I haven’t seen my Maid/Matron of Honor since May. I bought her dress for her, and she hasn’t paid me back. She didn’t show up to our engagement party. She didn’t come help me look for dresses. She didn’t come to the appt. with the florist she promised she would come to.
2 days ago, she calls me and tells me she is moving back down to Los Angeles in 3 weeks. She won’t be able to plan any sort of shower or bachelorette party, and won’t make it up for the wedding until THE MORNING OF!!!!!
Is it OK to ask her to step down/relieve her of her duties as MOH? Ashley has already offered to throw the bridal shower and the bachelorette party, and has basically been there for everything related to my wedding. How do I ask one to step down and one to step up?
Have any of you been through something similar? How did you handle it?
I don’t think it’s fair for Chelsea to have the title of Maid/Matron of Honor, when she hasn’t done anything. But Ashley does all the work, but doesn’t even get to be the one who stands by my side when I say my vows. 🙁