(Closed) Religion and Bridal Party

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It shouldn’t be an issue.. a handful of our wedding party members are Catholic but the others are not.. I don’t see why it would make them uncomfortable; it’s just a different setting/different experience for an hour or however long the Mass is.  THey’re your friends & they’re there to support you on your big day, regardless of whether or not it’s in a church of a denomination that they belong to.  It’s not like you’re asking them to convert by any means.. just to stand up there with you! I wouldn’t worry about it at all 🙂

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

It’ll be fine. LIke kt23525 said, you’re not trying to convert them. If they are strong in their faith, they won’t have a problem attending a service of another faith. (Both my BMs were Catholic, but that’s because they are my sisters.)

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m atheist and I’ve never had an issue participating in my friend’s weddings that are religious. Only 1 was held in a church and honestly, I didn’t really think anything of it. She’s one of my best friends and I would be there for her whether she got married in a church or a cave. While I may not agree with anything that her religion (or any other for that matter) teaches, I can certainly fake it for an hour or so. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think it matters. I’m not catholic but have attended services at a catholic church when invited. Unless you have someone who has clearly expressed reluctance in entering a catholic church, it shouldnt be a problem

Post # 7
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I dont think it matters. I’m not catholic but have attended services at a catholic church when invited. Unless you have someone who has clearly expressed reluctance in entering a catholic church, it shouldnt be a problem

Post # 8
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528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I can’t see it would be a problem. If they are your friends they will want to stand up with you on your big day regardless of their faith. I have four bridesmaids and only one is Catholic as she is my Future Sister-In-Law (I recently converted) None of the rest of our bridal party is Catholic as my family are not and neither are 99% of our friends.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

It shouldn’t matter. Just make sure they understand that they can’t receive communion (if you’re having a Mass) and why.

Technically, the people who do the readings at Catholic weddings are supposed to be Catholic, but I think that is rarely enforced.

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I really don’t think they’ll care or even be surprised that you chose a Catholic church. My sister married a Catholic man (we’re protestant), and they had basically a watered down Catholic ceremony in a church. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I gave my BMs a rundown of what a Catholic ceremony was like because 2 weren’t Catholic. I didn’t want them to be surprised that it was an hour long or anything. That might be helpful!

Post # 12
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532 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Why would religion suddenly matter if they have been your friend all along? Unless you are having a mass, at which point they can politely decline. I follow an alternative spirituality and was a bridesmaid in my best friend’s wedding, who is orthodox Byzantine Catholic. There was never so much as an eyelash batted. We’ve always been friends, of course I was going to help and support her on the special day. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

As a non-Catholic Christian, I would be fine being in a bridal party where the ceremony was held in a Catholic church. I wouldn’t know all the traditions, but the most important thing for me is being there for my friend. I don’t know how a Je will wish person would feel… but if they know you’re Catholic, and know the ceremony will be in a Catholic church, here’s hoping that they would feel the same and would want to stand by you! They’re your friends right? 🙂

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I dont think it matters. My friend just had a full catholic mass,  in a beautiful historical mission, and i was the Maid/Matron of Honor. I am baptist and i had no problem with it. I actually found it very interested and knowing how important her religion is to her, made it all more special. I was proud to stand next to her.

The best man was also not catholic, so we just didnt take the euchrist, but other than that we fully participated in the ceremony.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think it’s a great idea to do a quick explination of the ceremony (and maybe point out someone they can keep an eye on for cues) and let them know what to expect.

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