- 2 years ago
I’m not exactly Team Bride, but I think what the ex-BM did was far worse. The fact that the ex-BM tweeted about it and refused to consider attending as a guest meant that their friendship didn’t mean that much to her. She comes across as bitter and petty, and while this makes for a good story, I wouldn’t want to be friends with someone like her.
I also did not see anything passive-aggressive about the bride’s email. Of course notifying her friend would have been better by phone, but not everyone communicates well that way and even on the Bee, we often encourage people to write out their feelings to make sure the message comes across clearly.
Plus, I doubt that the ex-BM’s actions (Tweeting, refusing to go as guest despite having made all of the travel arrangements) were entirely out of left field, which makes me think that the bride probably had some hints about her friend’s behavior that contributed to her decision to ask someone else be Bridesmaid or Best Man.