Relocation woes

posted 1 year ago in Career
Post # 2
2763 posts
Sugar bee

At this point in time, you & Fiance need to consolidate expenses & you both need a steady income (even if that means you’re only living off his income). So logically, moving makes sense right now.

But long term, you guys might need to reposition yourselves. With an upcoming wedding & combining lives, I wouldn’t mess with his job at all-you guys need that income. Is there a bigger city close to him you could commute to?

Also, unemployment can usually last for 1-2 years, so that shouldn’t be a problem. But definitely check into it!

Post # 3
1167 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

glutton :  I had this, in reverse. My partner and I both left stable well paying jobs to move back to my hometown. Kudos to Fiance, he was more than happy to do it – as it made me so happy. Left his friends and family to start fresh. Never held it against me, or weaponised it in arguments. Sorry….sometimes I forget how lucky I am…


But, not only were we moving from stable jobs, we were going to a volitile market (Perth, Aus – mining boom is over, unemployement sky high). Chances of success were slim. I went on all the forums, saw how many Perth-ites were unemployed. Really psyched myself out. I was panicking. Fiance did his best to calm me, but I was freaking-the-F-out. 

But, here we are, 9 months later. I guess the BEST advice I could give: Relax. It will all work out. You seem like a good person, and good thing go to good people.

I was worried – SO worried. We left Canberra with no employement. Only had enough savings for about 3 months (6 if we stayed with my parents). But it all worked out. I got offered a job on the trip over. Fiance got offered a job his 3rd week here.

Relax. Take deep breaths. The more anxiety you have, the worse it is. And, the more you lash out, causing more fights. 

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