- 7 years ago
I have been reluctant to add myself to the waiting list as it is is somehow admitting that I am eagerly waiting for my boyfriend of almost 2 years to propose. But I think it is time as I check out these boards quite a bit and have commented a couple times.
I am in my early 30’s and my SO is in his mid 30’s. We have been living together for almost a year now, and talk of getting married/having kids has been going on since the beginning of the relationship, but became more frequent in the recent months as many of his friends and family ask him when he is going to ask me. My family and friends are pretty quiet on the subject, just different cultures.
We did have a long talk over the holidays about how he was feeling stressed and pressured (not by me). He is worried about whether people should always feel madly in love – like everyday all day. I think it is normal to have times where one feels sort of “meh” and then there are other days where you feel elated. He said he knows that I am amazing and he can’t imagine being without me but he gets anxious and these thoughts go through his head and it overwelms him. On the one hand, you would like someone to just ‘know’ you are the one but as we can all atest that doesn’t seem to be quite how it works. I just appreciate that I have someone who is so romantic and so open about telling me exactly what he is feeling, So, I wait and try to be supportive while he figures these feelings out as I already know he is the one for me. I am pretty darn confident that he just needs to think it through talk it out so we will see.
Also, just a word on me in case I respond to any of your posts – I am a very frank person, so while I will try to be sensitive to people and not “snarky” it is my nature to call like I see it 🙂 Just wanted to forewarn so people know that I am not a very sweet girly bee. More like a pushy, opinionated bee. Which is why my super romantic sweet boyfriend is so great for me – he is teaching me to be gentle – I am a work in progress.