- 6 years ago
- Wedding: August 2012
I’ve read a lot of posts on this site that involved a bride wondering what was “right” or “proper” to do regarding many different facets of the wedding. The most important thing is that YOU are happy. Weddings nowadays have turned into dog and pony shows. If you want to send registry information in the invitation, DO IT! If you want to invite someone, but not their significant other, DO IT! If you want no children at your wedding, GO FOR IT! This day isn’t about the other people, it’s about you and your husband-to-be uniting as one.
My fiance’s family wanted a large, elaborate wedding. That’s okay for some brides, but I don’t see the point in spending all of my money, that could be paid towards a house, on a day. I’m not having a large wedding, and while there was a lot of hulabaloo about it, it’s okay now, because I said “screw them.” This day is about what my fiance and I want, we want small, intimate, old timey and charming. People are being excluded from the guestlist, there are no children allowed (eventhough my brother will have had his first born 2 months before the wedding), we did include registry information in both the save the date and the invitation, and I’m walking myself down the aisle (no my father is not deceased nor are we at odds with one another. I just feel with this decision I should give myself away, because I am my own person and I am not being forced or given into this life-long commitment. I enter freely under my own will.) We have no flower girl, no ring bearer, no bridal party, no Maid/Matron of Honor or Best Man. We’re not having drinking or dancing. We are having our simple wedding that WE want. We are not having the elaborate wedding others want or that is expected of us.
Overall, this post is to encourage you not to let other get the best of your day. Dont’ get stressed. Do what YOU want. No one can force you to do something you don’t want to do, though it may feel like it. Regardless of what they think, if you do things your way, on the day of your wedding everyone will feel the beauty and sincerity of it. Small or big, modern or traditional, your wedding is going to be awesome as long as it is the wedding YOU want.
(This message does not mean that you can spend your parents’ money willy-nilly. I had to pay for my own wedding, so if you have someone paying for the stuff you want and they say “no,” then you need to pay for that something yourself or change it. Be respectful when it comes to others helping financially. I’m not trying to create bridezillas!)