- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2010
Alright – here’s the thing. I grew up mostly with my grandmother who was a science teacher by day and worked as a bridal seamstress at a bridal shop after school (I’ll give you a moment to think about how COOL this was for a little girl!). Obviously I always imagined her being there for my wedding, helping with my dress, etc. With sadness I say that she passed away unexpectedly last March.
In addition to this, my fiancee’s father passed about 4-5 years ago just before we met.
We are having an outdoor beach wedding and want to find someway to remember them. Some ideas include having an extra chair “Reserved” on each side of the aisle; including a small ‘in remembrance of….’ at the bottom of our programs; or having an ‘Rememberance Easel’ out by the cocktail area. I’m affraid the latter might make our guests feel a little wierded out, but it was an idea.
I’m already ‘borrowing’ a piece of jewelry from my grandmother and sewing it into the inside of my dress (only I’ll know its there, which is fine by me – it doesnt go with the rest of the dress and its small).
We want to remember them and show people we ‘know’ they are there with us, but if we can’t find a way to do it without it becoming a “Wedding Bummer” or scaring our guests then maybe it just needs to be personal feeling to us and not shared among others.
So how did you remember loved ones at your wedding – if you even did at all?