(Closed) Remembering the one you lost on your big day…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My grandpa recently passed and i plan on attaching his ring to my boquet.

Post # 4
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Newbee

My dad passed away the day after my 20th birthday, almost 4 years ago. I plan on attaching a locket to my bouquet with his picture in it. We’re planning on eloping, but if not, I’ll also have a chair reserved in the front row for him.

 

I love the idea of the perfume in memory of your sister. The people we’re close to should always be involved in our big day, even if they’re not here. 🙂

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Drift_Avalii:  You know, I think that’s perfect…it’s personal, it’s special, and it puts her in your heart on that day….I know it’s hard to live those big life moments without the ones that have already passed…I love my grandma, she died when I was 12….so I wore her necklace on my wedding day, and that was just enough to make me feel like a little piece of her, was there with me.

I honestly get really annoyed at memorial tables, and memorial ceremonies, to me those have no place at a wedding…it’s an awkward moment for everyone involved and brings sadess to what should be a happy time.

Post # 6
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Newbee

@Nona99:  I completely agree with memorial tables and ceremonies! My family wants me to have something similar for my dad and I just feel like it’s so morbid, almost like another funeral rather than a happy, joyous wedding.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I love the idea of the perfume, that is a wonderful way to carry her with you on your wedding day. I plan to wear one of my grandmother’s bracelets. We also will have a paragraph in our program remembering those who have passed. I have heard of people lighting candles, having a song played, carrying a memento on their bouquet, serving their favorite dessert/meal, etc.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This is such perfect timing for this post. My fiances grandfather just passed away and they were really close. I love the idea of a locket or something with a picture that he can put into his pocket. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My Dad(2/08)and Mom(1/12)are both gone.

I will have a picture of my Dad and my Mom’s engagement ring in my bouquet.  i struggled with who will walk me down the aisle. So, they will be with me.

 

Also, my parents were BIG bird lovers.  And I am going to give homemade heart shaped birdseed favors that will be displayed on a tree.  People can take them or not.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I was actually thinking about doing a memorial table. I’m sad to hear others might think it’s morbid. I don’t understand what’s wrong with honoring a loved one in this way? It’s not about sadness, it’s about trying to find a way to make it feel like they are there when they cannot be. 

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

I think that’s a lovely idea. <3 Mr. LK’s parents are both deceased, so I had his favorite photo of them made into a charm on a pin that he word inside of his tux. It was just for him to know about, a simple way to carry them with him. It’s hard when someone so important in your life is no longer able to be there with you to celebrate life’s wonderful milestones, so you have to do whatever works for you.

Post # 12
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I did my whole wedding decor around the memory of my mom.  She was murdered in 2006 so I am using yellow butterflies in my decor.  Colors are royal blue, silver (bling) and the yellow butterfly. Everyone attending the wedding knows what it represents.  Here is my wedding website if you want to take a look… http://www.chelleandtj.com

The perfume is also another great idea!  Anything to remember the ones you love.  I also made a “In Loving Memory” candle set.  I think alot of brides do this as well.

 

Love,

Michelle

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

Both of my parents have passed and FIs brother was killed in the bush a number of years ago. I am thinking about keeping the front row of my side empty (only child) and having an empty chair in John’s memory. Honestly I don’t know what else to do. My parents were not into photos, so I have NONE of either of them. I am using diamonds out oearrings that they left me for my ring guard/wedding bands. 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My mom passed away December 19th; we are going to play Mama’s Song by Carrie Underwood at the reception and dedicate it to her.

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@Drift_Avalii:  I like the idea of the perfume.

I’ve been struggleing with this and how to honor those that I wish could be there but can’t, namely, my cousin who I lost 12 years ago (like you said it doesn’t feel that long).

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’ll be wearing jewelry from my step mother who passed away in 2011. 

I think we’re also going to do a bouquet of roses up at the front. Each rose will be for someone we’ve lost. We’re not going to call attention to them, and unless you know what they mean, they’ll just be a bouquet of roses on display. But it’s a way for me to feel like I’m bringing them with me. 

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