(Closed) Remembering the one you lost on your big day…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@Drift_Avalii:  You’re welcome. 🙂  I’m glad we could help.  Any death is difficult to deal with and you never really stop mourning the loss of anyone you love, but when someone dies under particularly tragic circumstances like your sister, the death can be much harder to face and accept.  Sometimes extra caution is needed in cases like this.  For example, my mother-in-law has lost all four of her brothers, but three of them died due to accidents (two died together in a boating accident and the third died from an accident involving a sawmill) and these deaths are much more difficult for her to cope with than the other (many) losses in her life.  She never got over them and I doubt she ever will.  As a result, she specifically asked that we NOT include her brothers in our memorial table, and we respected her wishes on that.  However, she gave us her blessing to use pictures of her parents who have also passed away.  I got to use pictures of everyone I wanted from my side because all of them died under ordinary circumstances (and not recently) so I knew that no one would be overly sensitive about it.  In fact, my grandmother loved the fact that I was using my grandfather’s picture! 🙂

Perhaps a memorial table would not be the best idea in your case given how sensitive a subject your sister’s death still is for you and your family.  Perhaps you can have a conversation with them to see what they would be comfortable with.  I wish you all the best whatever you decide to do.

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