(Closed) Remembering those who can’t be at the wedding

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Personally I like the idea of a family table with photos of family members wedding days and candles with the person who’s passed away’s name on it. 

I’ve seen a single rose (or favourite flower) left on the chair reserved for them at the ceremony and that can be really sweet – if done in a certain way, IMO. I think drawing attention to it too much is asking for sympathy.

What are you most comfortable doing? And what is your grandma most comfortable with? After all, it’s your wedding day and her partner. So if it’s ok with the both of you then it’ll be great for everyone else.

Post # 4
151 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Hi 🙂

I’m having a memory table, which will feature some family photo’s, and a candle.  The photos will also include our parentswedding photos as a reminder of the example they have set us, as well as remembering those who can’t be with us.

My fiance will be carrying a photo of his gran in his sporran (we’re having kilts), and I will be wearing my grandmother’s eternity ring as my something old.

Perhaps your fiance could make a short mention in his speech, to say how inspirational some of thestrong marriages you both grew up around were?  Like your grandparents, maybe his or parents etc.

I’m sorry for your loss xxx

Post # 5
8 posts

I am sorry for you loss, parents, grandparents and children are hard.  But I am sure your grandmother would love for you to remember him in a way that is personal as well as public.  Maybe you could have a family table to include everybody, but I like the idea of using may a tie pin on/in your bouquet or on your garter.  Think about and maybe speak with your dad or grandmother and see what they thinl.  Good Luck and God Bless you.  (Even is there is no display …he will be there in your heart and in spririt)

Post # 6
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I had two grandparents that have passed, therefore we had the florist put together a little vase with 2 ivory roses (the rest of the flowers were ivory too) with a little bit of greens.  We put them at the front near the unity candle.  In the program we put:


The floral display is placed to remember our loved ones who

are not present to celebrate our special day with us. 

They are always in our hearts.


And then their names were listed below.

Post # 7
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are having a short remembrance in our ceremony. We are going to have our programs say “In Loving Memory Of… their names” then during our ceremony we will be taking a moment of silence for those who cannot be present and for those who do not have the civil right to get married.

Post # 8
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

We’re doing a couple of things. I’m having a locket in my bouquet with a photo of my grandmother who passed away last summer. I’m also having a single rose to remove from my bouquet (roses were her favourite) to take to the cemetary for her the day or two after the wedding.

We’re also giving a donation to the Alzheimer’s Society for my other grandmother who is still with us, but who won’t be able to attend our wedding due to the progression of her disease. Each guest will get a packet of Forget-Me-Not seeds as a part of their favour.

We have a digital picture frame, so I’m toying with the idea of filling it with photos of people who couldn’t be with us, but I’m a little concerned about it turning into a sob-fest around the photo frame. We’re an emotional family 😉

Post # 9
1106 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

First of all, I’m so sorry that you lost your Grandpa. I know how difficult that can be, especially when it’s unexpected. My prayers and hugs go out to you and your family.

What we’re doing at our wedding is having chairs at the end of the family rows with picture frames tied on to the chair. Then we’re putting a single rose on the chair in honor of their memory.

I hope this helps! Hang in there…

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