(Closed) Remembering Your Mom

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
686 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Oh I am so sorry for the loss of your mother.  I totally teared up toward the end of your post about hugging the special women in your life and presenting them with your mom’s flower…that’s beautiful.  I do not have any advice for you but just wanted to let you know how sweet your last paragraph is.  Good Luck Sweetie, and know that your mom will be watching you!   : )

Post # 5
163 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

My FI’s grandfather passed away in January we have a vase we are going to fill with sand and sea shells collected on the beach with him along with the boutiner he would have worn. We are also going to durring the ceremony plase (memory stones) we got at his funeral in the vase. 

My friend’s mom died from breast cancer as well, all of the bridesmaids and the bride wore a pink ribbon in her honnor it was touching

I hope this helps 

Post # 6
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am sorry to hear about your mom, but it sounds very special that you have these other women in your life!

Both of my parents died of heart disease, so I am going to do the sometimes debated donation favor and put a frame on each table that thanks guests for sharing in our day and says a donation was made in their honor. I am also putting my mom and dad’s names at the bottom with a little heart. No “in memory” or anything, but it’s a way to make sure that they’re present.

My dad’s favorite was a monarch butterfly, and I always associate it with him. Even to this day when I see one, I say “hi, dad!” My mom collected elephants with their trunks up for good luck, so whenever I see an elephant, like a picture or a figurine or anything, I similarly think of her. I am trying to think of ways to incoprorate each without being too cutesy or themey. Just a little symbol of them!

I also want to have a framed picture of his mom and dad from their vow renewal and a framed picture of my mom and dad from their wedding. I was thinking of putting the little animals by the pictures, but I’m not sure.

I think it’s difficult because you want to honor her memory, but you don’t want it to be overbearing. I know I don’t want to do the “empty chair” because it would probably make me cry, and not in the “tears of joy” way. But I saw recaps on here recently that did that with a little butterfly for her mom, and it looked so touching. Sure, I teared up at the recap, but that’s a great option, too.

Good luck with your planning, and I am sure you’ll find something meaningful to you. I think it’s so personal that you’ll figure it out for yourself and hopefully we inspire you a little.

Post # 7
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I’m planning on putting a charm with a picture of my mother on it in my bouquet. That way she’s with me as I walk down the aisle. It’s something only I will know about. I’m sorry I have no ideas that weren’t already mentioned for a way to publicly honor her.

Post # 10
5183 posts
Bee Keeper

Have you thought about placing a little charm with your mothers picture on your bouquet? 

Post # 11
429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m so sorry for your loss! I can completely relate. My mom also lost her battle with breast cancer just over 2 years ago, so I understand how difficult it can be planning a wedding without your best friend.


It’s beautiful that you want to remember her on that day. Personally, I’m planning on doing the locket/picture on my bouquet thing that PP’s mentioned. I’m also doing an extra dance w/ Fiance during the reception. I’m not close with my dad, so rather than a father daughter dance, I always planned on doing a mommy daughter dance. Since that won’t be possible, Fiance and I will dance to Carrie Underwood’s “Mama’s Song” (youtube it, it’s a tear jerker for sure!). We’ll start the dance together, then the dj will invite anyone who knew her to join us on the dance floor in honor of her. Either that or we’ll invite anyone who knew her to dance for the entire song with us.


I hope this post brings you lots of great ideas and you’re able to find something meaningful! Hugs!!!

Post # 12
1498 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m so sorry for your loss. I am also a motherless (almost-)bride and I have been pondering ways to honor my own mom lately. For me it’s a little different because my mother died when I was a four month old infant, so I don’t really “know” her, per se, but through stories and memories people have shared all my life I have a pretty good idea of her.

For me, I am planning on having an empty chair “reserved” for her at the inside end of the front row (the side closest to the aisle), and a framed picture of her on said chair, with the poem below in it somewhere (not sure of your religious leanings so this may not work for you at all, but just in case):

Dear Lord please clear a spot for her

she should have the perfect view

Her little girl’s a bride today,

and I am counting on you.

Let me feel her presence

as I journey down the aisle

But let me notice her absence

if only for a while.

Let me stop to think of her

as I am given away

And know that if she could

she would be here with me today.

Dear Lord please clear a spot for her

she should have the perfect view

And if she should get sad today

Dear Lord I count on you.

When I get to the end of the aisle I’ll take a flower out of my bouquet and lay it on her chair.

I’m undecided on the poem as of now because SO and I are atheists, and I’m not being/don’t like the idea of being “given away”, so it’s a little bit of a stretch for me. But it makes me tear up every time I read it, and I know my family will love it, so I’m still considering it.

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