Post # 1
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
ok – so SIL is the family drama queen in my husband’s family. i’ve talked about her before – she is just awful as far as how she’s treated her family (up and moved away 2 states while their mother was in the hospital and didn’t tell anyone til AFTER she’d left)…and there’s a huge wedge ‘tween her and Mother-In-Law now…
funny thing is – though – she acts like my husband (her brother) hung the moon – and yet my husband can’t stand her (specially for what she’s put the family through)…she emailed me a while back alllll excited about the wedding and all that – saying, and I quote “oh how I wish i lived closer – so you could have someone to help you with your wedding!!!!” (um like what i don’t have any friends?) anyways though…
so i called her today asking her if she’d like to be a part OF the wedding – thinking she’d be excited to help…we need the guest book registrar person and my husband suggested her.
so I asked and I got blank silence for a few seconds and then “well, why not ask krystal (their niece) to do it? i think she’d like to”. she could NOT have sounded more like “ugh i don’t want to help you out”
i just do not get her! no wonder the family can’t stand her!
seriously she’s such a drag and negative about everything – and i TRY to include her, like she seems as she wants to be and I get the COLDEST shoulder ever!
so i was all upbeat and told her “well, think about it and let me know” and she was like, “ok i’ll let you know”.
ugh. sorry just need to get that out.
Post # 3
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3620 posts
Sugar bee
I know it’s hard, but try to focus on the good things going on with your wedding. I’ve had my fair share of family and fil drama with the wedding planning (believe me, i can relate!) but at the end of the day, the people who love you and care about you will be happy to help, and those who have their own issues can deal with it on their own.
Post # 4
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2641 posts
Sugar bee
Well sounds like Future Sister-In-Law is rather cold to her family. So can’t support that.
However, regarding asking her to be a guestbook attendant… I kind of wonder if based on her comment, about wishing she was closer so she could help you with the wedding, if she was disappointed about not being a Bridesmaid or Best Man, and that’s why she was taken back by the offer of guestbook.
Also, to be honest, I wouldn’t like a guest book attendant job. That seems like a job to me. I don’t want to work at someone’s wedding. So if someone asked me, I’d probably turn it down too.
Post # 5
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1545 posts
Bumble bee
I am so sorry she is acting like that. UGG that makes me so mad. Hello you are going to be apart of the family she needs to start acting right!
Post # 6
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1562 posts
Bumble bee
yeah – well we’re just hoping she doesn’t try any drama WITH any of the family AT the wedding. Darling Husband is afraid she might – and honestly if she does – she WILL be asked to leave – i don’t care if she’s here 6 hours in from a different state!
Post # 7
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Busy bee
Dont ask her to do crap…she wants to do it on her terms sounds like. Thats what my Future Sister-In-Law is like. She wanted me to ask her to be a bridesmaid, but I guess I didnt ask her fast enough because a week after she said yes, she backed out saying I asked out of pity. I made a mental note that from now on, I will keep it simple with her.