Post # 16
Sorry you’re experiencing this! People tend to get caught up in their own lives with weddings and kids and new jobs, etc. No excuse not to take an active interest in the lives of other people haha. I often don’t get how people overload their BMs. I basically see it as asking someone to stand by you , which maybe requires a dress. Everything else is gravy.
Post # 17
doubtingdebbieah: 100% agree!
I had a similar situation but vice verca. My (ex)bm only wanted to chat about her life,her stuff, her timing and all that… whenever I had some wedding related stuff she’d ignore me. Which is also ridiculous!
Post # 18
I lost a friendship over her stupid wedding, but I’ve been so much better from it. I wrote a lot of post about it 2 years ago lol. I was going through literally the hardest thing I had ever gone through, I’ve lost both of my parents so it was just me and my grandfather and I was his caretaker, also while trying to go to school and study abroad. He was in and out of the hospital, even over my birthday, and she couldn’t be bothered to even ask how he was until 5 days after he went in. I was dealing with life and death situations and her and her mom were too far up each other’s ass to even realize that the world was still revolving, and not around her wedding. Then they would blow up on me and cuss me out for not being “negative and not supportive, especially when bride has ALWAYS been there for you” (you know, except when I actually need someone to be there for me.)… I’m so glad I learned who they really wore and got far away from it.
I got engaged the day before my grandfather passed away and was on a plane home when he passed, so now that I’m wedding planning, I really focus on what’s important…and it’s not the fancy one day party.
Post # 19
thank you, ladies. I’m just happy I went through this before I got engaged. I really learned a lot about how NOT to treat my BMs!