(Closed) reminding people to RSVP?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@jd94:  I would wait a few more days and then go ahead and do it. I personally would split the list up between my bridal party and ask them to make phone calls to each guest reminding them to RSVP. When do you have to have the numbers to your caterer?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Yes…I would give it a few more days and then make personal phone calls to each guest…

Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper

Yes, I think a mass email is fine and I also think it’s fine to do it now (since the RSVP date has passed). 

Then, give it til Tuesday or so, and start contacting people directly.  Sometimes the direct apporach works best (vs. the mass email).

I’d also title your mass email with:  Greetings!  vs. “Hi, everyone”.  (Meaning – you want to try to make the email as ‘non-mass email’ as possible!

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@oracle:  great suggestion on the email subject Wink

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

Ugh, the chasing down of the RSVP…………..

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I would do it now…they missed the deadline and its rude to keep you (the bride, whos already got enough on her plate) waiting!

Like, RSVP or get off the pot people! 🙂

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think it’s okay to do email or phone calls.  Depends on how big your list is…

A friendly reminder wouldn’t hurt.  But if you want a more direct approach, I think massive email people might forget to reply. (I for one am guilty about it haha)

If you email them directly just want to see if they are coming, and then ask them kindly to rsvp on your website would be okay too. 

 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Since it’s going to be the weekend, you may be able to reach more people on the phone (or less since some folks unplug over the weekend). Email could be fine, but it depends on your guests. I have some older guests and they are certainly not looking online or logging on to any website.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wait until a week after the RSVP deadline, then call people.  This seems counterintuitive, but it will be easier to get an immediate reply from people that way.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Do it now. The deadline has already passed. Send out the mass email asap (making it not look like a mass email) if you haven’t emailed already and then start the phone calls 48-72 hrs later. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Had the conversation with most of my friends…in the end you just find yourself calling everyone to ask…its a brave new world.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

You know, I’d prefer the email reminder, not because I wouldn’t want a phone call from a friend, but… if you put that link right there in front of my face, it’s so EASY to respond right then and there! Your phone call will remind me I should go to that website, which I will promptly forget to do.

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