Post # 1
Hey bees — I had an online RSVP for my guests and we’ve passed the deadline. We have a few stragglers, of course, and am working on getting answers from them.
I’m wondering though if after a point, should we remove the RSVP option from the wedding website?
I ask because we’re getting a few people who we knew would be No’s, and who never responded to us before so we put them down as No, just now coming onto the site and RSVPing as No’s. So that isn’t a major deal, but it did make me think about anyone who may decide to change their mind to a Yes like a week before wedding and thinks its OK to do that on the site.
Just wondering what/if any measures can be done to make it clear the RSVPs are done/settled and prevent guests from doing something like that.
My family is all accounted for, but on my Fi’s family, there’s been some couples/people who were back and forth, and I’ve been told it has happened at multiple weddings on his side where a few people showed up unexpectantly OR dropped out last minute. If its like a couple people it isn’t a big deal as far as tables go bc we’d need like 10 people to drop for it to matter… but I do feel bad for the parents paying for dinner if they’ve got people showing up or dropping out and we had to pay for it anyway.
Overall, did you disable an RSVP option after a certain point?
What do you do if/when guests try to change their mind or RSVP super late?
Post # 2
My wedding is far in advance but we are doing a combo of regular mailed RSVP’s and allowing an option to RSVP online also.
I would recommend removing it after you have to have your final counts in. Anyone after that point that wants to RSVP should contact you directly! That’s what we’re planning on doing at least:)
Post # 3
we’re doing online-only RSVPs as well, and i never thought to disable the RSVP! hmm…things to think about. here’s something that comes to mind as to why you might not want to disable it: if people try to change their RSVP way after it’s too late, at least you KNOW and you’ll be able to then contact them directly to let them know that unfortunately you won’t be able to accommodate them (last min additions). in the even that someone has to decline last min, it’s also better to have that information in case it means you want to change around seating assignments or something.
basically, it seems that the kind of people who think they can RSVP last min, are also the kind of people to just show up/not show up without ANY notice, so i dont think that disabling the RSVP feature will actually prevent that behavior – but if you keep it enabled, MAYBE you’ll at least have a heads up of the last min people so you can contact them appropriately. just my two cents (:
Post # 4
Yes, our RSVPs “closed” after the deadline. That way if anyone wants to make any changes, they’ll have to actually contact you.