Post # 1
We love our reception venue however we don’t love that we cannot fit an empty dancefloor and all of our dinner tables in one room.
We’ve decided to do the thing where you build the dance floor, place tables on it for the dinner, then remove them for the dancing.
Have you been to a weeding where this happened? How was it? Keep in mind that:
- Our venue will “comfortably” fit 140 people (10 to a table, 14 round tables)
- There is a piano in the corner of the room that cannot be removed (should that account for anything!)
- There are actually to very large carpets that cannot be removed that essentially divide the room on top of the hardwood floor.
I am concerned that there will be an awkward transition from dinner to removing the tables. Where do you tell people to go? Should we assign certain people to those tables, such as family or close friends, so the are the ones to get up?
Post # 3
Where are your guests going to sit after the tables are removed?
Post # 4
Are you removing all the tables? Not everyone likes to dance, I really don’t like dancing and only danced the first dance at my own wedidng.
Post # 5
My best friend go married last summer. She did the same thing, and it worked just fine. She just placed chairs around the wall to give people a place to sit when they wanted to sit down for a little while. No one said a thing about the transition! It is totally doable! Good luck and congrats!
Post # 6
Only the tables that cover the dance floor will be removed. I expect the dance floor to be 16×16…would that be 3 or 4 round tables? The event is actually in a house that also has at least 10 arm chairs and tiny tables along the wall (first picture), a library and downstairs parlor (second and third picture), outside terraces and a lot of other seating in the house in the hallways.
Of course, most people should be in the reception room watching us dance! But, we like the fact that if people would like to get away from that, there is room.
Post # 7
We could remove the arm chairs along the wall…but I just love them there. I like them in general and as a place for people to sit after dinner. I am a fool for symmetry so I like the idea of certain things on the two large carpets in the room, too, and not over the carpet (if we were to move the chairs). That may have to change…but we’ll see.
Post # 8
I’m all for receptions with alternate seating arrangements–for example, we are doing cocktail style seating at our reception. However, with your wedding, I worry that if you’ve assigned people tables and then they are sitting there for a while, they’re going to feel annoyed that you’ve decided to take away “their space.” They had a spot they were enjoying sitting, where they could leave their purse, etc and then all of a sudden their space is gone.
We’re putting our buffet on the dance floor to save space and to give access on both sides–would this be a space saving option for you? I would try to find ways to make everything fit without having to displace only certain people.
Post # 9
I went to our venue yesterday at a time where it was being set up for another wedding. It was good to actually see a dance floor in there. The dancefloor looked like it was 12′ x 15′. It was in the center of the room with no tables on it.
With that, there were 10 tables with 9 chairs each (eeee 9-10 chairs is tight, blah). The other things taking up space were the piano and the DJ in the corner. There was a sweet heart table set up at the front, too, next to a laptop setup and a screen for a slideshow, I guess.
Ya know…I’ll say it: Our venue may be too small for our guest list.
Oh, that burns! We love our venue for so many reasons. We are inviting a certain number of people and we are estimating a certain number will not attend; hopefully at the end, we can have a seat for everyone. I figure that this isn’t something to hope for but something to make sure of but one of the things we like about our venue is that, as a house, it is informal/familiar and people can lounge in the library, large and decorated hallways, in arm chairs in the room where dancing will be, on the terraces or in the courtyard.
We will make it work, I believe. Between RSVPs “with regrets” and maybe having a “kids room” I hope we can make it work so it is comfortable for everyone! It should be!
Post # 10
My wedding was supposed to be outdoors, early October in CA…well it turned cold the night before my wedding so we had to move the reception part inside. I almost had a melt down at the thought of removing some tables, but on the day of the staff did everything seamlessly, I barely noticed….it all worked out fine. Don’t worry! I worried for nothing the day before at the rehearsal…
Post # 11
We potentially would have had to do this, removing two tables. I put a table of people who love to dance, with the next table full of people they knew, and a table of people I “knew” would leave right after dinner nearest the dance floor and left the chairs. That way the dancers could squeeze in with the next table when they needed a rest.
I ended up not having to sacrifice the tables, as the spot was big enough without.
Post # 12
Yep, we’ve been wondering who would have to get up, essentially. I feel like it’s such an out-of-place worry because one of the reasons we like/liked our venue was that there is a lot of space for people to chill out outside of the main reception area. And even in the main reception area, there are gorgeous and comfortable arm chairs and bistro tables that make up for at least a table being removed.
I feel so terrible when I think this, but sometimes I hope that we end up with a smaller guest list than what we are inviting.
Post # 13
We were going to do this, but ended up only removing our sweat heart table. The best thing is to schedule it when people’s attention will be elsewhere like during cake cutting. Otherwise, I would do it during the first whole group dance.
Also…let people know ahead of time and put younger people (who will dance) at those tables.
Post # 14
Those seem like good times to do that…when the dancing begins with a lot of people on the floor or at another time when they’re distracted 🙂 As long as they know there are other places they can sit.
Post # 15
about your concern with a guest list that is too big, that was my ONLY wedding worry for a long time. fiance’s family wouldnt budge on adding people and insisted that so many people wouldnt come, so i shouldnt worry about it.
10 days after the rsvp deadline, 40 out of 200+ actually rsvped. only 3 negatives. im not calling for the missing rsvps, werent not doing assinged seating so no need to really know for sure.
after doing some mock set up we found we could fit more people in our reception hall than we thought. and we were offered the loan of a big tent to add tables outside, and my fiance and i agree that a number of people will want to sit out there anyway. so i started at like 50 over limit, now im like 20 over, im not worried at all.
about you dance floor options, i would just make sure that dancing doesnt start too soon, and as others said, seat either your head tables on the dance floor, or tables of people who will like mingling around to other tables and dancing.
if you are far over limit, i would suggest moving the arm chairs as people suggested. but that is a decision to be made after rsvps come back also.
dont spend too much energy worrying until rsvps come back. may not be an issue.
Post # 16
I’ve been to weddings that have done this, and have been seated at this kind of table. After dinner, most people get up, mingle, go to the bar, etc, so removing the tables wasn’t a big deal. It wasn’t like people were kicked out of their chairs. We were also told ahead of time by either the bride or groom that our table would be taken down after dessert. Really, it was no big deal. If we wanted to grab a seat at any point, there were plenty of chairs to go around. I pretty much never stay at my table at weddings though once dinner is finished.