(Closed) Renewing Vows..too early?? OPINONS please?? 4 years..

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
4885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think you can do them whenever you want!

Post # 3
6110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I don’t think it’s too early. You can do them whenever y’all want to. I would probably wait until 5 years just because I like things in increments of 5, but I’m just weird like that.


Post # 4
46607 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

A vow renewal is between the two people involved. You can do this privately, whenever you want.

Post # 7
1871 posts
Buzzing bee

I think it makes sense as you are saying you feel like the two of you want to recommit to each other and the marriage. Since you asked for opinions, if you did a big wedding just a few years ago I think it would be kind of weird to do another big wedding type ceremony. For example, I feel like if I watched someone get married in 2011 and attended a party for them, I’m not sure I would want to do it again in 2015 unless it was someone I was really close to. But if having people witness the renewal is important, invite them and see what happens. But I guess I would keep it small or keep it to myself with Darling Husband and the pastor.

Post # 8
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

You can do a private vow renewal between yourself and your husband anytime you want. If you plan to throw a party/reception it’s probably best to wait for a milestone anniversary like 10th or 25th.  People will want to celebrate big milestones with you but not the more routine milestones like “fresh start” or “4th anniversary.”  

Post # 9
11693 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

oliviakatherine:  If you’re just talking a vow renewal between you and your Darling Husband and possibly immediate family then that’s fine – whenever you want.

I wouldn’t have a second wedding this soon.  If you want to recommit to each other, personally I think that should be more of a private thing.

I have friends who are doing a re-committment every 5 years, just them and a photographer.  I imagine now that they have a child he’ll be involved as well. 

Post # 12
7339 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

oliviakatherine:  In that case, I believe you would be better off waiting a bit and selecting a more significant milestone anniversary to invite your loved ones to celebrate.  Life in general doesn’t let you have do-overs when you don’t like how an event or an occasion went. Most people are satisfied with making the best of their memories and situations.  Lots of people want new starts in their marriages or have something they wish they’d done differently for their weddings, but they accept that life moves on, and they move on too.

Do a private celebration with your husband and invite those 20 people in another 6 years.

And if for some reason you do a celebration/vow renewal/whatever with some guests now, then drop all thoughts of having yet another “event” for your 10th anniversary, because that is just becoming excessive. You don’t need to have basically three weddings even if they are spread out over time. 

Post # 14
3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We are having a formal vow renewal with wedding elements next year. We eloped when we married and it caused an uproar. It is only our fifth anniversary but my guests are very excited.

I don’t see why you can’t have a vow renewal. I would keep it private since you already had a big wedding. 

Post # 15
890 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

oliviakatherine:  hey. 🙂 i would probably do a more private ceremony–maybe between you, your husband, and with your pastor? it seems like you have 2 reasons for wanting this renewal. 1, obviously because you’ve recommitted yourselves to your marriage (which is great, congratulations). 2, because you’re still upset over your wedding ceremony/reception from before (which is undertandable).

i think though that you might want to wait until your 10th anniversary to do the whole wedding thing over again; i would be confused a bit if one of my friends–even if her first ceremony was a disaster–invited me to a vow renewal/second wedding to the same guy after only 4 years. i think your friends and family would be more apt to celebrate accordingly if you did it at the 10 year mark (especially since you said you are going to do a 20 person ceremony at 4 years, and a bigger one at 10? it’s too much too close).

i say recommit yourselves to god and each other with your pastor, and then focus your energy on protecting and growing this renewed relationship so that you will be stronger than ever at a 10 year ceremony. 🙂

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