(Closed) Renting to a friend- Vent/Frustrated

posted 6 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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2143 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I think you have every right to keep the money, but I think it might be worth $125 to be done with this situation, because she obviously just doesn’t get it.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

Please tell me you took pictures of the bathroom before you cleaned/fixed everything. 

We are in a rental nightmare with FI’s dad.  He owns several properties that have renters.  The problem is that the renters who are in the houses are there because Future Father-In-Law felt bad for them.  The woman we are having the most problems has a “terminal” brain tumor (has had it for the last three years at least) and pay “when she can.”  Her freeloading daughter also lives there, but is not on the rental agreement.  Occasionally, Future Father-In-Law will get a wild hair about collecting rent and make Fiance go try to collect.  The daughter then goes crying to Future Father-In-Law who relents and lets them stay yet another month rent free.  Another renter lives rent free because he was was unjustly fired from the same company that Future Father-In-Law worked (the president of the company blamed this guy for one of his screw-ups).  The last family doesn’t pay rent and has stolen several pieces of furniture from the house.   He has stated several times that these properties will eventually be passed down to Fiance while Future Brother-In-Law will get cash instead.  However, we’ve been told that we can’t kick anyone out and we can’t raise rent.  I hate to tell him this, but we can’t afford the property tax on these places without charging rent so something’s gotta give.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@kinneybride:  Heck no!  Don’t give her the full deposit back!  That is ridiculous.  That was SO nice of you and your husband to take her in and provide her a home for the past two years.  Clearly she has taken advantage of the situation.  She is 32 years old!  She needs to grow up!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

You are right in keeping the money. She was renting with you and you treated her like any other renter. You had to deal with her staying for WAY longer than she was supposed to and using your things while she was there. She is the one that left everything so dirty and gross and you shouldn’t just have to say oh well because she is/was (?) a friend. If her boyfriend is so rich let him give her the money she’s bugging you about.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Man you are one patient friend… I don’t thing she values your friendship the way you value it… I think you have every right to keep that money…

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2024

@Kinneybride- Yes MANY places take cleaning fees out of the deposit if the room/apt is not clean when the tenant moves out (I’m not talking like they need to steam the carpets but a basic clean is usually required or a fee is charged). I think you are totally in the right.

If she has a copy of the pics then explain exactly what the cleaning woman had to clean (her nasty bathroom, carpet stains, tile work etc) I think she is trying to take advantage because you and Darling Husband were so nice to her and you said it yourself you try to be sweet (nothing wrong with that) but she is taking advantage of your sweetness. Do not give in to her, she needs to grow up and learn respect for other people’s property.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I’ve never had a place take “cleaning fees” out of a security deposit.  That’s typically reserved for anything above and beyond regular cleaning required between tenents anyway, which it sounds like this was.  Of course, several of the places I lived I moved in during a no-deposit promotion so I never paid one.  The only time I ever lost a deposit was when I moved out of my dorm room.  The RA was such a jerk about it I finally told him to keep the $50 and I’d throw in another $50 if he’d help me move into my new apartment. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@kinneybride:  Yes you are right. I know this because I was just like her when I lived at my mom’s as an adult. Sometimes I think back to that time and think to myself: ”man I really should have been better with chores, my cleanliness and overall provide a little more…”

I’m sorry things are tough with your friend, especially after everything you’ve put into that friendship. But just remember, you are a good friend and it’s her loss…

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Hang in there… You have every right to keep the 300 deposit. I’m shocked that all the cleaning only accounted up for $125!

As long as you keep pictures and have receipts for all the cleaning its valid. Obviously she’s going to be petty and mean; it seems like the friendship has been one sided for awhile and “good friends” wouldn’t blatantely use one another to that extent.

 

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Be careful with cleaning fees.  Many states won’t allow landlords to take anything for cleaning if it is within reasonable wear and tear (which after three years of living there will likely cover a lot).  Save ALL your reciepts, even for things you did not charge her for in case she takes you to court and you have to substitute the repair reciepts if the clearning charges aren’t legal.

I’ve actually never had any portion of my deposit kept (I always clean and everything) except one time when I lived in the place less than a year and they are by law required to repaint for the next tenant, and can only charge this if the tenant is there less than a year (after a year it is wear and tear and they can’t charge you).  Also, we were moving within the same complex, so we didn’t want to rock the boat. 

 

 

 

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