(Closed) “Repeat after me: My wedding is not a competition” Talk me down, bees!

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

eekkksss!!! That’s rough! I know i would find it hard not to get upset… I would totally not tell this girl anything else about your wedding.. she’s obviously jealous of your fabulous wedding plans!!

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Um, I’d be pissed.

BUT…surely she’s not inviting everyone to the morning after celebration right?

Bottom line: Your mood translates to your geusts moods. If YOU are happy and glowing and having a blasts, so will your guests! Just focus on getting married to your man, and forget all the drama!!!

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

No, your wedding is not a competition. But it is your wedding!
I would probably change a few things in my reception to ensure that my party was not identical to my friend’s, but not tell her about any plans anymore… (the devil on my shoulder tells me to tell her about fake ridiculous plans to get back; but that’s not nice, is it?!)

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: November 2011

It’s crappy of her to steal your ideas but as long as you have a good time at your wedding, who cares?!?!?  I would be miffed but ultimately you can’t control what other people do and you should feel sorry for her that she canot come up with her own ideas.  In planning our upcoming wedding I try to remember other weddings I have attended and to be honest, I can’t even remember if we ate at most of the weddings I have been to let alone what we ate or any of the minor details.  It is absolutely NOT a competition and if you still want it to be just make the details she stole even cooler than what she had! JKInnocent  Congratulations and I hope your day is all you hope it will be!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

You have every right to be upset.  Your “friend” obviously has very little imagination.  You are doing the right thing by not discussing your plans any further.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1996

Sounds like she’s the one who thinks it’s a competition – it seems that she heard about your plans, got jealous of the casual fun vibe you were crafting, and decided she’d just have a second reception so she could have it both ways. That is a shame, and I’d be upset too, since I think you’re not crazy in imagining that people will go to your wedding and think “Hey, didn’t we just do this?”

But you’re right that there is nothing you can do but be the better person, express happiness and congratulations to her, and enjoy the holy hell out of your own wedding. It’s yours, it’ll be a ton of fun, just have a blast and don’t think about her.

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