(Closed) Repercussions of a holiday weekend wedding, were we selfish?

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@kmarie719:  It’s a tricky situation to have a wedding on a holiday weekend IMO.

With such a small wedding and having it a holiday weekend I think some of your guests might stay 2 nights.  I wouldn’t worry about that so much, maybe find out if there are vacation rentals a few groups could go in on together?

As for your friend, I’d let her passive agressive comments go – I have a friend who’s 3 new brother and sister in laws all got married within 6 weeks of each other – their poor parents!!!

Post # 4
4518 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@kmarie719:  Re the hotel: don’t worry! People will make their own decisions about whether they want to stay 2 nights in a hotel or not. There’s always SOMEthing slightly inconvenient/expensive/whatever about attending a wedding. Most of the time, it’s totally worth it and you think nothing of it as a guest. And if for some reason you can’t attend, you don’t. So really, don’t worry. I think memorial day is a great time for a wedding. I’ve been to weddings on holiday weekends and, yes, hotels can be more expensive, but I enjoy having the extra day off.

Re your friend: again, don’t worry! 2 weeks later is hardly stepping on their toes. They might say they can’t make it, and that’s ok. But you did absolutely nothing wrong by scheduling your wedding after theirs. It’s hard enough to settle on a date without factoring in every one of your friends’ significant dates, etc.

Post # 6
2105 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Find another hotel. I would already be hesitant to stay in a hotel for a wedding only 1 hr away. Add on the holiday weekend and the two night min and people will leave by 9 pm And stay sober. 

Post # 7
7560 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: January 2013

Ignore your friend’s comments, that’s just silly.

The hotel thing would be a problem for me though. Is there absolutely no hotel that will take people for just one night? If I lived an hour or two away I would probably drive home rather than book two nights. 

Post # 8
11422 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009


I had a semi-destination wedding on Friday night of Memorial Day weekend. It was totally fine. It’s a great holiday weekend to choose for your wedding; please don’t allow others to cause you to be upset about your date. In our case, we were able to secure room blocks at two local hotels, and they did not have a minimum stay. Are there any other hotels, perhaps those a little further away from your venue, that may not have this stipulation?

Post # 9
923 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I attended a wedding on Columbus Day weekend this year and it was wonderful.  Granted, I was a three hour plane ride away, so having the extra travel day was very nice.  Are you perhaps getting married in a tourisy location?  That would be the only reason I could see for hotels requiring a two-night minimum.  If so, then maybe your guests would like to stay and extra day and get a vacation out of it.

Post # 10
3941 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

As a guesst, the hotel thing would definitely be an issue with me.  I’m assuming that’s around $300 a room with that minimum?

Are there any other hotels that don’t require a minimum?

Post # 11
3718 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

My best friend had a memorial day weekend wedding that required me to travel 5 hours away from the beach. They also had a 2 night minimum. It wasn’t my first choice as a guest, but 80% of his friends went. We pricelined/booked directly to get a one night hotel stay. We kept quiet about our preference to do traditional Memorial Day stuff (ie the beach), and all had a good time. Don’t stress, guests will understand.

My FI’s friend got married that weekend too. It was a packed wedding, even with the holiday and 2 nights at DC prices (yes, we did both weddings that weekend, even though they were 6 hours away from each other– you make weddings a priority for close friends!)

 a packedAs far as the two week thing, don’t stress about it. It isn’t the same weekend.

Post # 13
2999 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Oh no…I have the same weekend as you! I hadn’t even thought of this.

Post # 14
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I chose Memorial Day Weekend for the same reasons.  I didn’t even think about the hotel being an issue :(.

The good news is, there are a lot of little inns, hotels, and bed and breakfasts on the Cape.  I bet there will be at least one who is OK with 1 night wedding guests.  But leave that up to the guests.  Just enjoy your special day!

Post # 15
79 posts
Worker bee

I have my wedding (also under 80 people) during Memorial Day weekend as well. I’m also in MA 🙂

We managed to find an affordable hotel option that doesn’t require minimum stay or minimum room counts, but it’s a bit further from the venue than I had originally hoped. Turns out there’s a huge soccer tournament in the same town as the venue so most of hotels are booked already.

As for your friend, she’ll get over it. I have a worse situation. My fiance’s friend is also engaged and booked a wedding the weekend before ours (after we had set our date). It just so happens that their wedding is on my birthday, and out of town, so we have to go there overnight. I’m not upset about them choosing the specific day (at all). I’m just worried that I’m losing the entire weekend to get things done. My solution – I’m taking more time off from work before the wedding. I think it’s actually worse for them, the groom is part of our bridal party, so they can’t go on a honeymoon right after their wedding.

Post # 16
2425 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

@MrsBroccoli: @KateByDesign:  agree with these ladies, you absolutely have to find a hotel without a 2 night minimum. My wedding was NOT on a holiday weekend, but a year after we booked it it was announced that a huge conference was in town that weekend, and the hotel we originally made blocks at now had 2 night minimum. So we called every hotel in town until we found options that didn’t require 2 nights. It’s not fair to put that type of burden on your guests.

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