Member- sunnierdaysahead2
- 4 years ago
- Wedding: April 2017
Hello Bees.
Well, my lost ring has not turned up. The story is here: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/my-ring-is-missing-can-a-dog-eat-a-ring/
The insurance company is letting us work with a jeweler to get a replacement. Now the problem is whether I want to get a ring exactly like the lost one, or something else.
My Fiance picked out my original e-ring. The plan was for me to narrow it down to three of my favorites and let him make the final choice. I became OCD about finding the perfect ring and my styles were all over the place. I couldn’t narrow it down to just three. My Fiance said he knew me well enough to pick out something that he thought I would love.
He picked out a round in a round split shank halo. I had tried on a split shank halo on our first trip looking at rings and I had commented on the finger coverage (something he remembered) and I had also said I prefer the look of just one ring. But the ring I tried on has a much smaller center than what he picked out. He picked out the center diamond and had the jeweler order the setting separately so he didn’t see the completed ring until it came in. Because the diamond sat so low, it took up a lot of space on my finger – I’m guessing about 11mm as the ring’s halo was not very dainty.
While at first I loved my ring, over time I thought it was just too big. I felt a bit self conscious with something so big. I had clients comment on it – usually good, but everyone would always ask how big it was. Because I work with clients, I found myself trying to minimize the size if someone commented on it. I know it was silly to do that, but I felt like since I work on commission (I’m a real estate agent), I would get judged because I had a “larger” ring.
I talked with my Fiance about it and it seemed like he was a bit bummed that he didn’t get me my “dream” ring. I don’t mean to come across as selfish; the ring was just a bit big for me. He was also (surprisingly) a bit upset that I will no longer have the ring he proposed to me with.
So part of me says to get an exact replica of my original ring, despite it being a bit too big for my liking. The other part of me says to get something a little less flashy.
We went over the weekend to look at rings and he did come around a bit. I tried on a halo that was more of a “bloom” halo, like what Tacori makes where the halo is under the stone instead of the stone sitting down in it. This particular ring also had a straight band and not a split shank. I had changed my mind and kind of want to wear a wedding band along with my e-ring.
Long story short, would you get a replica of your lost ring or something else? This new setting that I liked was definitely on my list; at the time I didn’t highlight it as one of my favorites because I don’t think you really ever know until you actually wear something. My Fiance really likes the round diamond so he would prefer I get another round.
Here is my original split shank ring:
Here is the bloom halo. I don’t have a picture of it on my finger. Edit – this picture below is a Tacori. The ring I was looking at was not a designer ring but it was practically identical to the one pictured.
Thanks for the help.
