- 8 years ago
- Wedding: July 2010
Hi, ladies! I’ve been following all of you on Weddingbee for a while, but I haven’t created an account until now. I’m asking for your input on a situation that recently happened.
Here’s some background information:
My fiance and I have been engaged and planning our wedding for 13 months. Our wedding will be this July. We have sent out save the dates, informed our friends and family, etc.
Recently, my cousin (who is about 8 years older than me) got engaged. She decided to pull everything together in two months and will be getting married in May.
A few weeks ago, she called my mom and me. She wanted make sure that she wasn’t stepping on my toes. She said that she felt really bad about planning something so close to my wedding at the last minute. Both of our wedding will require many of our family members to do a significant amount of traveling, so she was afraid that since her wedding is before mine, people will come to her wedding, but not mine. Therefore she said she been very worried about my feelings and everything.
We assured her that it was fine, and that this was a very important day for her etc.
—However, I recently got an invitation in the mail to her wedding. On the outside envelope it was only addressed to me, and on the inside envelope there was nothing written (she had told me before that her mom was addressing invitations for her–so maybe she didn’t know something should go on that envelope). Therefore, I am under the impression that I am the only one invited, and my fiance is not.
I know that it was very nice of her to invite me, and that she would like to include me as a guest on her special day, but I’m really hurt by this. My sister and my fiance said that she probably meant for him to be invited, but forgot to include his name, and that I should send the reply card back with both of our names.
I know the rules of etiquette, and I can’t just assume that he’s invited. I feel really bad for him, and this puts me in an awkward situation. I know that the outside/inside envelope indicates who is invited, and I’m not going to assume it was a mistake.
What are your opinions?