Post # 1
I’m so confused about this wedding I’ve been invited to. Recieved the wedding invitation back in May and the couple indicated they wanted monetary gifts only… fast-forward to last week when I recieved a facebook invite to the bridal shower and she has a registry. I can’t tell if they want money or things off the registry? Does the registry only apply to the bridal shower and they still expect monetary gifts at the wedding? I don’t want to hurt the couple’s feelings by getting the wrong gifts.
Post # 2
Typically even in general registry gifts are for the shower and most people give cash for the wedding, but registry gifts are still fine. If they stated monetary gifts for the wedding then I would assume registry gift for shower and cash for wedding, which I would do anyway.
Post # 3
FB message to a shower? Oh please don’t worry about upsetting them. They are having the parites and you’re the guest they should do things to make you feel comfortable. They can always return things so it’s not a mortal sin. Get them a GC to the shower if you’re really worried hat way they can buy what they want. Seriously do not over think this.
Post # 4
HisIrishPrincess: Yup. Apparently they only had a few physical invitations which I assume went to all of the Maid/Matron of Honor friends and everyone else was invited via facebook. I’m trying to be optimistic and supportive (esp. with my own engagement/wedding looming in the future. Karma) but this is a mess.
I know for a fact this couple needs household items. They’re starting with very little but I’m personally not comfortable just giving cash or a check; it’s thoughtless and passive. A gift card is probably best.