Post # 1
I just talked with my cousin who informed me that our side of the family has a bad habbit of not RSVP-ing, and just showing up.
In most cases I woulndn’t mind too much, but I’m doing assigned seating and will need an accutrate head count.
Can I put something like "RSVP required" or is that rude?
I mean I already know we’ll be making phone calls to make sure in the end but I’d really like to avoid that as I don’t have any of the numbers really, and I know my mom and step mom will flake on it and not do it leaving me to and I would feel like a heel calling about my own wedding. Know what I mean?
Post # 3
I feel like people understand that RSVPs are required for weddings, and that anybody who tends to flaunt that rule would probably flaunt it even if you stated it was required. I don’t think it’d be rude to include it because I feel like it’s usually understood. It might be more fruitful to put your energy toward following up aggressively with people and spreading the word that there will be assigned seating.
Post # 4
Good thoughts, thanks so much!!!! 🙂
Post # 5
I agree that you should just spread the word that there will be assigned seating (hence the need for replies), and make your reply-by date early enough to allow yourself time to follow up with those who did not reply in time. Some people just don’t do it, regardless of how you spell it out for them!
Post # 6
Ditto on just following up by phone. Yup, it can be a pain and take awhile, but that’s how it goes. I’d ask your fiance to help if nobody else will!
Post # 7
For those people that didn’t RSVP to my wedding, I just sent them a short email asking if they received my invite alright and to ask if they’ll be able to make it. All of them responded within 24 hours.
For me, I don’t like talking on the phone, so this worked out just fine for me. I only called the few elder guests who did not have email.
Post # 8
Kim – thats such a good idea but I don’t really have any of the e-mails for my family memebers, aside of the ones I talk to frequently – I have HUGE family.
Maybe I could try to track them all down now….oh man this is going to be a bigger pain then I thought…LOL
Oh and I will not be making those follow up phone calls, every parent knows that for their side of the family – they are responsable for finding out about the "non-responders", I will have too much to do that close to the date with everything being DIY and I will go Bridezilla on them if need be….hahahahahahaha! Kidding, eh – who am I kidding – no I’m not!