Post # 77
I don’t think it’s rude at all, for the following reasons:
Yes, that last one is in fact an iPad.
My Fiance and I will have a moment for everyone to take pictures while we are standing at the altar, and then we are asking that everything be turned off until after the ceremony. They can take pictures at the reception all they like.
We included the following wording on our wedding website, as well as on an insert card in the invitations. We also plan to put up a sign outside the ceremony as a reminder to our guests.
“We want you to be able to really enjoy our wedding day, feeling truly present and in the moment with us. We’ve hired an amazing wedding photographer named Shannon Smith, who will be capturing the way the wedding looks– and we’re inviting each of you to sit back, relax, and just enjoy how the wedding feels. We respectfully ask that everyone leave all cameras and cell phones off until after the ceremony. We ask that you refrain so that we can see your face, and you can see ours, both on our wedding day and and forever in the photos that our photographer will capture. Of course we will be happy to share our wedding photos with you afterward!”
I don’t want people looking at us on our wedding day through the lens of a camera. I want them to fellowship with us, and to be able to actually be able to look at the faces of my loved ones, not at their cameras.
Post # 78
@rachelmichelle: Thank you! More great examples. And I also like the wording of your note, thanks for sharing.
Post # 79
@rachelmichelle: oh God, the iPad… worst nightmare realized
Post # 80
@physicsbride: I found the picture on Offbeat Bride. 🙂 You can find the template and wording here:
Post # 81
Love all the viewpoints on this thread. I’ll share that my lasting memory of walking down the aisle was seeing dozens of cameras/phones! After locking eyes with my Fiance, I finally was brave enough to look into the crowd, hoping to share a smile with friends and family. Instead all I felt like I saw was the backs of everyone’s iPhones!
After the wedding I surprised myself because I really wanted to see pictures right away (I’m pretty camera shy and thought I would be horrified to see myself). But then, after all that camera action, I only had two friends share/post pictures from the ceremony. We were lucky that no one ruined any important shots, but in my case the cameras at the ceremony added nothing, and were distracting to me at an important moment.
Post # 82
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
There are a lot of ways to be tactful about this, IMO. I think i’m goign to include a note asking people to leave the photos of the big events like cake cutting first dance, etc. to the pros but to feel free to take their own pictures with other guests
Post # 83
I also say okay for ceremony not for reception!
Post # 84
@CityBearBride: They like to photograph the guests’ reactions as the bride walks down the aisle; in this case, the guests were taking photos.
Post # 85
This post is hard for me to answer because I want NO guests whatsoever throughout the whole day either, but I know it’s never going to happen. You know what’s going to iritate me more than anything though, as trivial as it may be?? My guests putting MY wedding pics up on Facebook and tagging us in them before I even have a chance to announce our marriage myself!!! I know it’s going to happen. And I know I’m going to be pissed.
I think maybe put on the invitations somewhere in small writing “The bride and groom respectfully request no guests photos to ensure our photographer capture our day in the best way possible” or something like that. I know that I’m going to do it anyway!!
Post # 86
@mrslmbtobe: You can set your FB settings so that you can’t be tagged in photos. It’s not a bad idea to do that before the wedding. It won’t stop them from posting photos, but it will cut back on the number of your Facebook friends that they aren’t friends with seeing the photos.
Post # 87
It is not rude I think. It is our wedding and just let the guest know why you want it and let them know.