(Closed) Requests for our proposal

posted 9 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think that’s unreasonable…because it means a private moment would be shared with someone else.  The important thing is that you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, not that you get to look at a picture.

Also, you shouldn’t expect someone who is not usually emotional to change.

Post # 4
5072 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

you’re asking too much.  Let him propose the way he wants to.  you shouldn’t be micromanaging it.

and asking someone to marry you is heartfelt.  I can’t imagine what you’d want him to say specifically?  

Post # 5
1718 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@newcitylights:  I would have let the bf propose in the way he feels most comfortable.  Planning a proposal is daunting to most guys, they have it hard enough trying to find the ring we love.  Most guys find that the proposal is their thing; and, the wedding is the girls’ thing.

Post # 6
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Maybe he feels like it would be less intimate if there was some third party there snapping photos? Maybe he wants the flexibility to do it whenever the moment feels right, instead of on cue b/c a photographer is about to pop out of the bushes? Guys put themselves under so much pressure to plan the perfect proposal–and let’s be honest, a lot of times girls multiply that pressure tenfold. Try not to be so demanding. This is his special moment, too.

Also, based on your previous posts you are expecting a ring to be involved in this proposal, yes? So technically I’d say that’s 3 things you’re asking for. 😉

Post # 8
777 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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@newcitylights:  Uh…presumably he still has to worry about paying for it though, right? I have no idea about your SO’s financial situation, but a lot of guys spend a significant chunk of their savings on the ring, regardless of who picks it out. I’m not trying to be rude, but you do sound a bit ungrateful. Try to put yourself in his shoes for a few minutes?

Post # 10
2116 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@newcitylights:  I don’t think that’s unreasonable at all… that’s been my main request to my boyfriend as well. I really really REALLY want it captured on video or in a picture. I will be really upset if it’s not 🙁

Post # 11
5062 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I would love to capture our moment on in a photo to share it with our families as he’s hinted we will be on holiday when it happens and I want them to feel part of it as well. 

So I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all. But, if your SO wants a private moment, compromise and do ring and happy faces pics after.

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