(Closed) Requiring Specific Underwear for GM?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think you should have your Fiance bring the topic up with them.  I would never talk underwear with FI’s groomsmen; I would feel way too uncomfortable!  He can casually bring it up like, “Dude, you can so see through the pants.  (Bride) found these boxers that actually work with the pants.  You should pick some up – or everyone will see your nasty boxers in our wedding pictures..”  Just make it casual and funny! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

It depends on what the guys are like, but I agree with @abbie017:  about making it into a joke.  Maybe buy it for them and have your groom pretend it’s their only gift?  Because if you rely on them to buy specific underwear I can almost 100% guarantee it won’t happen.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Making a joke out of it might be a bad idea, I would also refrain from commenting that they are soooo see through! 

Get their email addresses and email them the link to the actual underwear and say “This underwear works best with the pants we have chosen, as the pants are slightly see through, we both feel you guys would be more comfortable on the day if you buy these”.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Actually yes the gift idea is much better, but what’s their sizes and are the boxers a good fit? Buy your fiance’s boxers first and check otheir they fit well or not then get their sizes and order theirs if you still think they are good.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper

What kind of shirts are they wearing over them? If they’re wearing linen shirts the undies should be covered anway.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Are you 100% completely-and-totally-in-love-convinced-it-HAS-to-be-THESE-linen-pants-and-none-other? Because, honey, you are setting yourself up for all kinds of practical jokes and truly, truly endless teasing from your guy’s buddies over these pants. You will all be tottering around in a nursing home someday and they will still be teasing you about making them wear see-through pants at your wedding. Just sayin’. If you could even go for a darker color, or find a different brand with a thicker weave, that might avert the problem.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

The boxers should be a gift from your fiance. I think laughing it off is a good way to go. I think you get to be the brunt of that joke “Yeah, crazy bride has her heart set on these pants but you can see any other boxers through them so here’s your present!” But I don’t really think that’s a bad thing. We should all learn to laugh at ourselves, after all. And I don’t think it’s unreasonable that you have your heart set on these pants, but PP is right. This is likely to get a good bit of ribbing. Accept that and start it off and you’ll be all good!

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Normally I’d say weird, but in your case, I’d gift it to the groomsmen to wear. Say that you don’t want anything colored to show through and it’s worse in pictures.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I’d say buy it for them, and have your groom give it to them IN MEXICO.  That way none of them can forget to buy them or forget to pack them.  Any other way and you’ll definitely end up with at least one guy with shamrocks under the linen pants or some such thing. 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I do think it’s a little weird to be dictating or even suggesting what kind of underwear the groomsmen should wear. I assume they will be able to figure this out on their own since they are all adults. I do agree though that if its absolutely necessary, it should be gifted to them instead of making them purchase the underwear. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KCKnd2:  I agree with this.  Honestly, OP, I’d try and find some different pants.  Once they find out, there will most likely be teasing and they will probably be annoyed.  But if your heart is dead set on these pants, then I think you should buy the boxers for each of the guys and have your Fiance give them to each Groomsmen as a gift.  He should also do it privately and say something along thing lines of “Hey, so after we got these pants, we found out you can see colored boxers through them so we got you these to wear the day of the wedding.”

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

@babu22:  YES, this. If your heart is set on the pants, definitely go this route.

Even though it will still be weird that you’ll be buying your GM’s underwear. (You’ll get teased about that one forever, too. But it’ll be a funny memory someday.)

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@AdriannaJean:  haha i clicked on this expecting you to be out of your mind… but you’re totally right.

it does need to be noted. and i would buy the boxers for them, if i were you.

Post # 16
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think your fiance should warn them – he can definitely do it in a funny way.  If it were me, I’d have him send all the GMs pics of him in the linen pants with crazy underwear showing through.  Then, send them the link to the AA website for the beige ones.  Linen pants are tricky and I bet you guys aren’t going to think about that type of thing beforehand!

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